Goal of The Day-Challenging Your PTSD

[safenow]

try not to judge yourself by the cleanliness of your carpets and curtains there is so much more to you than this

Thank you, Saffy. I was actually thinking more for the benefits of those who I'm hoping will come to my home to see me. It's been a long time since anyone other than medical people have been to my apartment.

Feeling a failure comes when you compare your efforts to others.

Actually, it's comparing myself to what I did before this last set-back. i was getting stronger before those people did what they did to me last year. It had taken me four years to get that strong, and it all was gone in a matter of a few weeks. sigh.

You are so kind to help remind me that pride is a bad thing. I appreciate it.

(((( Saffy )))), if you allow that from me.

 

[saffy]

I'm hoping will come to my home to see me.

Hi safenow,

They are coming to see you not your blinds and they will understand if they are not shiny bright, they probably will not even notice. Maybe it is your fear of judgement?

God I haven't cleaned my windows in years properly, I have more important things to work on. :)

I wouldn't say my home is a hovel but it looks lived in. A happy home is a messy one, someone told me once.

Although I do not clutter or hoard, as clutter causes chaos, according to Feng shui practices anyway. Richard Branson lives by it ;)

I can always remember being brought up in a show house. It was not relaxed and welcoming and that house was not a happy home.

If your goal is to be stronger you will get there, no matter who steps in your way and pushes you back. You sound like a fighter to me :)


((((((Safenow)))))) if you allow it back ;)

best wishes
Saffy :)

 

[CraftyCath]

Sorry if this is out of term, you might have OCD or something.

No, but my H does!:eek:

I have CPTSD, my husband has OCD, Dyslexia and Aspergers, my youngest son has Anxiety, agoraphobia, Dyelexia and might be a bit Aspergic too. My eldest is the only sane one!:roflmao:

Seriously though, I like cleaning and having my house tidy, I'm very minimalist. We all seem to have things that we are good at and with my eldest (22) it is not cleaning! He is an amazing cook and will cook for me and help me with the shopping. Both of them will put the bins out for me and do any heavy work. They will do anything if I ask them too and when they know I am unwell or the PTSD is bad or I am upset they always step up.

It is the moaning about everything that gets to me and I am learn't to step away, it is a big challenge for me but, with the help of my T, I am learning not to take the bate with my lads and to step away from their arguments. My H still gets involved and then there are arguments but I am learning to leave the room or the house until things have calmed down. We are learning to work as a team, especially with the difficulties we all have.

My eldest built me a lovely computer desk recently, he had never done anything like that before. My youngest is Mr Fixit and has a go at repairing anything, he recently fixed my computer.

I just wish they didn't moan and go on about stuff so much but then they are typical lads!

 

[intothelight]

Finding myself becoming more anxious. Need to maintain the peace and stay in the present.

 

[CraftyCath]

((((((((Deb))))))))

 

[safenow]

Seriously though, I like cleaning and having my house tidy,

I like to have my home clean enough to be healthy, dirty enough to be lived in. LOL.

Because I live in a wheelchair mostly, I track in a lot of stuff that makes me sick, so having a clean floor is important for my health. Now that I'm back up on my feet again, I must be carefull. With my illnesses I tend to fall down a lot. So I spend time on the floor. If I could, I'd have my carpet shampooed 3 times a year just to keep all that outside pollutants out of my home. In October, I had my carpet shampooed, and it's already got black spots on it. That concerns me, but right now, I can do nothing about it.

Today, my goal is, to not stress over things I have no control over.

 

[Spiderallis]

Today my goal is to stay calm and not get agitated by my dad coming in to work on the basement stair railing. Things are really tidy downstairs so he shouldn't have any reason to say hurtful things like the last time he came into my house... mum really let him know that was wrong, hopefully he remembers.

 

[safenow]

hopefully he remembers.

I hope so too. Safe hugs if you allow them. (((( Spiderallis ))))

 

[saffy]

It is the moaning about everything that gets to me

Sorry I did not mean to sound out of term with your situation. But I can understand how constant moaning about things can really get you down. Moaning is so negative and deflects from getting the job done. One thing I learned from my moaning teenagers, they are grown up now, was NOT to take it personally. I used to wind them up by singing and dancing around the hoover to lighten the mood a bit. In the end the boring stuff was fun in the end, for me anyway ;)

Today, my goal is, to not stress over things I have no control over.

That is a very positive goal and one that we can all take note of. Thank you for sharing :)

best wishes to all us housekeepers, mothers, protectors, fathers, children and ourselves. :)

Saffy :)

 

[Britt.f7]

My goal of the day in challenging my PTSD and depression is to not get frozen into place because I feel useless, overwhelmed, dreary, and all those other negative words out there. I need to get up and move around to stop this low feeling from taking over. That is my goal for today. I did pretty good earlier but after my nap it snuck up on me again.

 

[ms spock]

I have been stepping out of my PTSD helplessness each day, despite the anxiety, so that is something to be proud of. I am aware of my anxiety in going away for 6 days. Since I booked in for that I have been pretty wobbly

I am not feeling so good. My anxiety is quite high. But I am doing really well doing all the things that I am doing.

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[safenow]

My anxiety is quite high

Don't forget to breathe today.