Good T Gone Bad-

[OKRADLAK]

DARN! This happens a lot when I stop faking.

She was a good T., and then I went in and was real. And she could not take it.

I had not been sleeping and told her how hard it has been. I was not being rude, I was not being "borderline" (though a T should handle it if I was being Borderline), I was not swearing, and did not threaten sucide etc.

I think I scared her because I was different because of the sleep.

She said there was nothing she could do until I got more tests. I have had so many tests. All psych tests you can think of plus neuro tests. Now she wants a Neuro psych when I really need a sleep eval.

She stopped at the 30 minute mark and started to write on her palm pilate thing. "taking notes" and did not say a thing! I was there for 20 minutes, her saying nothing and "taking notes" . At about ten till, she grabber her stuff and walked over to the door and opeend it, ushering me out.

She did not even give me the paper work, but gave it to staff herself. She was acting angry that I was not the quiet little mouse she is used to.

I am very upset. I do not want that 6 hour test. It is very expensive and I have to drive several hours just to get there.

I am venting.

What do you do with good T's gone bad?? Now I do not feel safe with her unless I smile and pretend she is making me all better really fast.................

 

[piratelady]

What test does she want you to have? Did she say why you need this expensive test?

That is awful that she treated you in such a way. When you see her again, maybe you should discuss this with her. Sitting there, not talking, using her palm pilot thing seems very unacceptable to me.

 

[OKRADLAK]

She got overwhelmed, I think. Some Ts like you to have only ptsd or only another.....I have some complex issues like so manyof us do here because a lot of us were traumatized when we were young.

Yes, it was unacceptable. I am not sure what to do. Usually I bolt. Ts are human, after all. Shemay act like she "hears me' and gets it but she may have all sorts of things in her head like," Why did I get this nutcase?"

When I was younger I had a hard time keeping a T then I learned that magic of just letting them talk and nod and let them think they are helping you. They love that.

Then I realized that DOEs NOT HELP! I was just tired of being so confusing.

So now I have to try another way. I will think about talking to her about this.

 

[Hashi]

This sounds awful. I'm so sorry.

Yes, T's are human but they are also T's. They're supposed to have training, skills and supervision to deal with stuff like this. Even if they feel that what's presented is beyond their capability, they should be able to discuss that honestly and find a next step that's right for you. That's happened to me once, and it wasn't nice but it was responsible and ethical on the part of my then T. If a T is overwhelmed and shut down by a situation like this, then IMO they shouldn't be seeing clients.

A good T should be able to handle you being real. Isn't that the whole point?

Having said that, it's always best to clarify what happened. I'd definitely talk to her about it.

 

[Sheer Force of Will]

Can I ask, How old is your T? How many years of experience?

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Hi, I am sorry this happened to you. I do not know what you are dealing with. I would be really careful not to assume or try to guess or speculate about what was going on in her head, because only she can know that information.

You can only go on how what she did to you made you feel, think, etc. I wish you the best in discussing this with her. Mabe discuss this with her first before you choose to do the test. I am sorry the test will be such a hardship on you.

Sounds like she is ruling stuff out with all of the testing. Who knows why she did that to you. It does not sound very good. Good luck.

 

[intothelight]

Okradlak,

You have some really good questions about the test and about her behavior. It wouldn't hurt to ask her directly about both, and see what she has to say.

I know that I don't always interpret what people say or do in the manner in which they intended. So instead of assuming, I am trying to just ask for clarification. I find more often than not, things are not what I interpreted them to be.

However, if she did blow you off, I would clearly express that it was not acceptable to sit 20 minutes while she took notes and that should be done after your time or during, as you are being billed for a full hour.

Hope this works out for you.

Debbie

 

[anthony]

I don't think you should justify anything about your therapists actions... it was piss poor at the end of the day.

Psychiatry doesn't need complicated tests. That is all nonsense. Psychiatry needs a good psychiatrist to correctly assess and diagnose you. That is it. Once you have that, then a therapist with the adequate ability to treat those diagnoses should then do their job.

Complicated tests and nonsense has nothing to do with therapy. Sleep tests and such should be handled by your local GP, not your therapist, as that is medical based, not psychological, even though it can be caused from psychological issues, it is still biology based requiring your local doctor.

 

[LisaR]

I am sorry you had to deal with this. I'd be quite upset if my therapis acted this way in session, My therapist and I have butted heads before and I get insecure about that so I can't imagine how you feel. I don't have any advice but wanted to offer a virtual hug.