Had A Bad Anxiety Attack Last Night

[wufnstein]

Trying to find a new place to live and having a hard time about it. Started this morning when the person who I was suppose to move in with in Cali went off on me saying stuff which he shouldn't. He was the originally one to say I can move in with his gf and him a week ago on friday. Had a airline ticket lined up after he said it was a go.

Then saturday of that same week. I called him to make sure everything was a go and still said come on. But a hour later his uncle called saying I can't come cause the landlord said only two people can live there and visitors can stay three weeks. But here is the thing. He had another friend stay there for five months and nothing happened. Little bit fishy. I had a job lined up too at where I used to work.

I could of stayed there for a while til i can get my first rent and deposit for my own place. I called him back after his uncle called. Went off on him. Saying I was all set and leaving July 3rd. He had no excuse and hung up on me. He couldn't tell me himself. But liked I said before. He went off me big time. I told him straight out. I am on the verge of being kicked out and being screwed and I am the bad person. I was shaking, mind racing and was gonna pass out on the floor due to this. His favorite one line answer is okay.

No I am sorry or nothing, It hurts when you can't have real friends. Plus I don't have any local friends that I can count on. So my life is insane now.

 

[The Albatross]

Well, for good or bad, you were able to speak up for yourself. I'm sorry that this didn't go your way. You are not the bad person. You relied on someone to help you relocate and when it came to crunch time, they changed their mind. The reaction is understandable, and I've had that reaction myself in an airport actually as I was going to visit a friend.

The situation is serious, on the verge of being kicked out... having arranged for a job where you were due to relocate... stress does that.

It does hurt when friends disappoint.

I hope you can figure something out wufnstein, I understand and have been there... really.

 

[KwanYingirl]

You sure didn't deserve to be tossed out after all your plans were arranged. Take your energy now to find housing and what you need. Chances sound pretty good that this friend can't be depended on.

 

[wufnstein]

Nope. I lost faith in him. He doesn't even care.

 

[Justmehere]

Sounds weird his uncle was involved, unless he was the co-signer on the lease. He sounds like a really crummy guy if he needs his uncle to talk for him all the same.

Who knows, maybe they finally got found out about the previous guest at the end of the 5 months and got in trouble.

Your friend really did very clearly and massively drop the ball in making sure it was all ok before you made all the plans. :(

Can you still go out there especially because you have the job lined up? Maybe there is someone you will meet at work that would let you stay with them until you can afford a place of your own.

Relocating is very tough. It is supposed to be one of the top 10 stressors in life. Finding out your friend is a flake didn't help. :(

 

[wufnstein]

I asked liked two people from where I worked there and they said they have no room. Cause one thing I know for sure. My so called best friend cheated on his girl friend while him and the guy they were living with went to another town for some job. Told me he had sex with this lady. I told him. You better tell your girlfriend what you did. Cause she will find out in the end. He has this one trait. He wont speak up sometimes if it is important. He has someone else do it for him. I could of lived there for like three weeks and then moved into my own place. its crazy.

 

[KwanYingirl]

Is there a Bed and Breakfast around where you live that you could stay at til you find a place? We also have this place called Residence Inns where it's like a studio apartment that you rent by the day or week. It would free you from the toxic drama of your so called friends. You don't deserve that crap.

 

[wufnstein]

Next town over I think.

 

[wufnstein]

Got some hopefully good news. I might have a place to stay. Only catch. It's in Texas with this two people I have known for four years. They are going to talk about it. Hope it does work. Really nervous.

 

[wufnstein]

Texas is a no go :(