Childhood Have you ever thought about contacting old teachers and asking them if they knew?

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Like others have said I think its always important to analyse what you are hoping to get out of it - and then preparing yourself for the likely result of you not getting it and maybe getting something you really don't want instead. When I am contemplating confrontation I write down every possible reaction and leave space for reactions I can't even predict. I then analyse the potential harm of any of the negative and unknown ones with the potential gain of having spoken out and feeling more powerful. What I don't allow myself is going in with expectations as that is a huge disaster and pain inducing situation waiting to happen. In truth when I have done it and it went as badly as I predicted I did feel more powerful but I was hurt as I don't think that the secret hope can ever be fully quelled.

If he is a normal variety of bastard and didn't realise what was happening to you he may well feel guilty for not knowing, despite not feeling bad for his own appalling behaviour - but even then he may well not share that with you in a helpful way if you look at his mo.

 

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I don't have any advice on whether or not to talk to your teacher but just my thoughts and personal experience:

I was abused at preschool but I don't think my preschool teacher knew. When I was seven I went to a psychiatrist. She suspected I had autism so she called my preschool teacher even though I was then in the 1st grade to ask questions about how I acted at school. My teacher was very helpful with the questions and I was diagnosed with autism. I'm grateful to have been diagnosed with autism early, however, somehow they missed abuse and that bothers me. I believe if my teacher had suspected anything she would have told my psychiatrist, but perhaps she did and the psychiatrist wrote everything off as autism. It does bother me sometimes. I feel I shouldn't be mad at my preschool teacher since she did agree to talk to my psychiatrist. I believe my teacher wanted to believe it was all autism because then it wouldn't have been her fault, autism is thought to be genetic but she could have stopped the abuse. But sometimes I do wonder if they turned a blind eye. I think its hard because no teacher likes to think there is abuse going on. I think people want there to be good in the world so they assume and pretend there is.

 

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