He Passed The Lie Detector Test

[Loner]

I mean, I don't know. I have a copy of the lie detector test results with a seal on it. I called the lie detector place and talked to the polygrapher, but they cannot comment on anyone's individual case (which is understandable). I don't know if I have the emotional energy to push the issue (i.e., have my stepfather sign a consent or whatever), and I don't even know if it matters, in that if they paid for the test, maybe they paid for the result. I don't know. This is all so confusing.

I think my post had the opposite effect that I intended. I'm not a therapist after all. My point was, if you can't know, it isn't worth becoming mentally frantic and running yourself ragged over it, just trust what you know is true, and focus on where you are emotionally.

Something happened to you, that much for sure is true. You arent crazy. What exactly happened isn't that important, how it effected you is.

 

[lisamarie]

Something happened to you, that much for sure is true. You arent crazy. What exactly happened isn't that important, how it effected you is.

I know, and I am working on getting to that point. It is hard!!! Some days I feel like I am going crazy. But I am actively working on focusing on recovery as opposed to "investigating". So frustrating and difficult though.

 

[freakofnurture]

Just my 2cents as a student of psychology:

First, trust your childhood friends to be the best 'lie detectors'. They found your stepf*ther creepy and intrusive; if they felt like that, he likely was. Also, that thing with the nudity? Totally creepy and inappropriate.

Second, the 'Lie detector' test that you described, with only one "Did you do X"-question, is complete and utter 100% purest bullshit. They could just as well have put a mood ring on him and looked if it turned red when they accuse him of molestation. He wasn't tested in any meaningful way and the test result has exactly zero meaning, none, null, nix, zilch, void. You can fold a paper plane out of that certificate.

Polygraphy is useful only to find out if a person knows the significance of certain pieces of information that are relevant to the case and not accessible to the public (so that the only way the tested person could know them is if they were involved in the deed). So the only way your stepf*ther could have really been tested were if they had presented to him a mix of true and false non-public details about the events that you remember and see if he reacts.

But this version, also, is only able to give a reasonably reliable positive, meaning if he does react, it shows that he likely did it; but it can't prove a negative, meaning, if your stepf*ther doesn't react, he still could have totally done it.