They have already lost....they are dysfunctional and don't realize it. It is a sad place to be. We realize we have problems, at their expense....and want to improve ourselves..........that right there is a win.
Hello @Ash_3, Anthony has already said what I was thinking. You've already learnt some very valuable ideas early in life. Don't let the past define your future. Be the change in life that you want to see. What happened to you was really bad but now your out of that situation you can live your life the way that you see fit. Best of luck to you. S3