Hello All

[Order23]

I am so glad I found this site. In one day it educated me about how ptsd affects sufferers and how they react when in crisis. Before I could say I knew she had ptsd, but just no clue as to how this manifested itself.
Reading your experiences I see how the ptsd sufferer says and does things that are hurtful to their loved ones, but they do not have the control. Is that right ? The statement sounds vaguely demeaning, but I don't mean it to be.

I told her she didn't need to shout and scream, (commenting on the negative effects it has), but she says she can't help it it's just the way she is, and I have such a hard time with that. Esp. when I'm not the target, and can see how others react to it.

Just on here for support and advice as a carer, and how to best treat her when she's in crisis. Have been living with this for 15 yrs.

Thanks
O23

ps
I've been reading on and off for months, and tried to sign up, but there's a glitch in the signup process ane either it didn't like "-" in the email, or an sbcglobal address I don't know. Finally managed with my work address.

 

[Sandra]

Welcome to the forum.

Are you using IE browser? I had problems with that browser using this site. So I download Safari recently and now this site works great for me.

 

[atl22]

Welcome to the Forum, Order23.

You could also make an anonymous gmail account that is specifically for this forum. That's what I did.
You may not want to use your work address.

As a person with PTSD, I would say that it is incorrect to say that we do not have control. It is very difficult, perhaps, but we are capable of learning how to control ourselves.

 

[Order23]

Thanks for the welcome

I'm using chrome. I could get the email confirmation ok once I changed the email to my work address.

Bit more background: My S.O. was abused as a child and had a very abusive mother, no privacy, numerous traumatic events, father that beat her, and then she suffered a rape as well as young adult. She is on meds and is diagnosed with ptsd. We've lived together 15 yrs and I tell you it is a struggle. Once again, glad I found this site.

 

[Sandra]

Is she seeing a therapist?