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I don't know if there are many posts regarding my concern, I tried searching but I honestly don't have the patience. I need help.
My husband has PTSD. From war and so on. I think I have been very understanding and have tried my best to manage it. However, I can no longer deal with a specific situation. For some reason we don't have sex. Whenever we do, I have to beg and beg for days if I get lucky at all. Months can go by and he does not show ANY desire. I'm the one that complains. I would be more understanding if he was not able to masturbate, but he does. He can easily masturbate daily. He watches porn and does his thing without any trouble. I can't seem to be able to justify his problem to ptsd. Why can he masturbate but can't have sex with me, ever. I noticed that whenever he got into serious relationships he would lose his interest. I'm sure that if he was single and just having random sex with women he would be fine. I don't think he is cheating on me, but he could. Is not like the thing doesn't work. It works fine, just not with me. Now if you're thinking I'm fat and ugly and he has lost interest, well right now yes because I'm pregnant. But when he came home about 8 months ago, I was just gorgeous. He didn't care one bit, whenever we did have sex was because I constantly begged. Now that I'm pregnant I find myself having less and less patience regarding the issue. Mostly because it has destroyed my self esteem and I end up eating my feelings.
I need some understanding. Why can he masturbate but he does not have any desire of having intercourse with me? Is this really related to ptsd? How can I manage this situation?
I don't know if there are many posts regarding my concern, I tried searching but I honestly don't have the patience. I need help.
My husband has PTSD. From war and so on. I think I have been very understanding and have tried my best to manage it. However, I can no longer deal with a specific situation. For some reason we don't have sex. Whenever we do, I have to beg and beg for days if I get lucky at all. Months can go by and he does not show ANY desire. I'm the one that complains. I would be more understanding if he was not able to masturbate, but he does. He can easily masturbate daily. He watches porn and does his thing without any trouble. I can't seem to be able to justify his problem to ptsd. Why can he masturbate but can't have sex with me, ever. I noticed that whenever he got into serious relationships he would lose his interest. I'm sure that if he was single and just having random sex with women he would be fine. I don't think he is cheating on me, but he could. Is not like the thing doesn't work. It works fine, just not with me. Now if you're thinking I'm fat and ugly and he has lost interest, well right now yes because I'm pregnant. But when he came home about 8 months ago, I was just gorgeous. He didn't care one bit, whenever we did have sex was because I constantly begged. Now that I'm pregnant I find myself having less and less patience regarding the issue. Mostly because it has destroyed my self esteem and I end up eating my feelings.
I need some understanding. Why can he masturbate but he does not have any desire of having intercourse with me? Is this really related to ptsd? How can I manage this situation?
