Hi All

[Kim_6116]

My hubby was a cop and now has PTSD.

We have been married for 8 years and at times I feel so overwhelmed and I think I handle those times very badly. I would like to learn how to handle them better, but I would also like some support for when I screw up and know that it's ok for me to do that.

From searching the net it seems its all about "them" and I dont mean that in a bad way - but surely there has to be something for the carers?

I am not trying to be mean and I think I am probably in a bad place right now, with the stress and pressure and it's always my fault. I am feeling very lost and perhaps a little selfish and I so hope that you guys can help me along the way.

Thanks for listening to my whine xxxx

<Edited for capitalizing I's and paragraphing by Amethist>

 

[amethist]

Hi Kim

Welcome to the forum and a good place to learn more about how PTSD effects both sufferer and supporter.

Before you go any further, please stop feeling guilty or selfish, it will not help you at all. we all handle our sufferer's issues badly at times, whether we have been supporting them for 10 minutes or 10 years.

Come down to the supporters section, where you find lots of helpful information, to help yourself and how to help support your sufferer easier.

If you can grow the skin of a Rhino and develop the patience of a Saint, it will help you both enormously.

Take good care of yourself along the way, it is important.

Amethist

 

[Froggie]

Welcome to the forum Kim_6116,

Amethist pretty well summed everything up. Supporters do need to vent out and have their share of support as it is not easy to deal with us sufferers. Maybe your husband might want to become a member, there are other couples on the forum. And there are also other members who were/are in the police force.

 

[CraftyCath]

Welcome Kim_6116,

I'm a sufferer and know how hard it is for supporters. I've been trying to get my husband to join but no luck so far. I hope you find the forum helpful and that you can share with others in a similar situation.