Supporter Hi, Deployed Fiancee Is Struggling With Emotions

[streg002]

Hi, my fiancee is deployed to Afghanistan and has three months to go before he comes home.

He had always been warm and loving, talking about how he couldn't wait to hold me in his arms again and how he'll love me forever. But recently he's been turning me down for phone sex, not saying anything affectionate or about our future, and the other night he said he's been thinking for a few days about how he enjoys being alone more than being around other people.He said he's been wondering if he'd rather be alone or in a relationship with me. He says he doesn't like anyone anymore and that I shouldn't take this personally.

Then today he sent flowers apologizing for saying things the other night he didn't mean but won't call to discuss this. He just messages me on facebook about how he's sorry and he loves me but he needs time alone to think. But he won't say about what. He won't call to talk about any of this.

I'm really scared. Is he suffering from ptsd or is he just losing interest in me?

 

[JustBe]

Welcome! You might like the supporter section of the forum too :)

 

[streg002]

Thank you! : )

 

[Privateer]

He sounds a lot like me over the last little while. I really hope you guys can get whatever help you need and get back on track.

 

[Barberian]

PTSD diagnosis can only be done by a trained professional. With that said, it is not uncommon for people who serve in combat situations to suffer from a, or many mental health issues. Mild depression is common and usually goes away after a short time back home. I strongly suggest counseling for the two of you upon his return. I strongly suggest this to ANYONE who is returning from, or has a service member returning from a deployment. My wife and I did.

(I've written many lines after the above only to delete them).

Most commands and installations have free mental health counseling available, both to the service member and their families for any mental health issue (relationship, anger management, etc). They usually hold post-deployment workshops (before a command returns) to give families an idea of what to expect, the good, the bad, and sometimes the ugly. They also hold one, or more after the military member returns to clue-in the returning member that things are probably different now, and how to deal with it.

Most base Chaplains are a point of contact you can use to get the ball rolling. I'm not familiar with the other services and commands.

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

Welcome. :)

 

[KP the nut]

Hi and welcome to the forum.

No-one here can say if he has PTSD or not. There is a wealth of information though. Please check out the supporters forum as well.

 

[intothelight]

Welcome to the PTSD Forum! :)

 

[anthony]

Welcome to PTSD Forum.