Hi, I'm So Glad I Found This

[maura]

Hi, I can't tell you how glad I am to have found this forum.

I've never been diagnosed by a DR. as PTSD, the last therapists I saw was at a mental hospital being treated for a nervous breakdown 20 yrs ago(they said things like dissociative and depressed and self medicating , I wasn't paying much attention at the time).

I was having a bit of a tailspin over finding out that my brother who had severely abused myself and two other sisters had fathered a girl. None of my old tricks like burning or cutting myself or checking out were cutting it and I found myself looking over a cliff into the Pacific and decided I needed help.

After the hospital , I thought I had it down. I got on with my life, I got married to someone I felt would keep me safe, had two kids I'm overprotective of and wig out rather rarely, and when I do I usually look up some horrible human atrocity or look through the police blotters for stuff like what happened to me and find validation in the "Yes, This was bad" thing... get fetal for a while and get on with it.

But a few month ago I had a bender, couldn't take it and I was a mess for weeks , today I had a little one and came out strong and O.K. I handled it right , used my words nothing self destructive, but I would love some help educating my husband, he can be very manipulative and tells me I'm being passive aggressive when I cry when he won't listen to no I'm not and I seem to have gotten through to him for today but what I'd love is for him to hear it from other people.

Can I show this to him your answers to just this post? Should he register?. I'd rather not, I'd like this just for me.

I know I'm waffling, so I'll end now.

Looking forward to your replies,

Maura

 

[Jimmy]

Welcome to the Forum Maura,

Hope the site can give you the assistance and maybe some people who you can associate with.

Jimmy

 

[Llama]

Hi Maura, I'm new here too.

I completely understand the need to have your partner understand what you're going through. There's a lot of stuff that we deal with that does seem to outsiders that we're just being lazy, or not trying hard enough.

I did some searches on the internet for "caring for someone with PTSD" and found a bunch of articles that describe what we're going through in a way for our partners to understand.

I'd suggest looking through some of that info and getting your husband to read it.

Hope that helps. :)

 

[Jimmy]

Hey Maura and Llama,

Anthony wrote an article in the carers section of this site. It is specifically targeted for Friends, Family, and Carers. I have sent it to my family.
[DLMURL]http://www.ptsdforum.org/content.php?r=306-Understanding-PTSD-Edited[/DLMURL]

Hope it helps

Jimmy

 

[Ladyhope Somerset]

Hi Maura,
I too breathed a huge sigh of relief when I found this site. Welcome to the Forum.
I was abused as a child and I am a carer for my husband with PTSD (we all carry a heavy load). However, this is the place to speak to people who really understand and find support while you learn healthy coping strategies. I am the type of person who wants to get things done and the big lesson I'm learning is the need to manage my emotions whilst learning from the wealth of information here.
With loving kindness
LH x

 

[amethist]

Hi Maura

Welcome to the forum.

There is a lot of information that can help both you and your husband.

You say that you have not been diagnosed by a DR as having ptsd. I am not saying you don't, but it is not a good idea to self diagnose ptsd, it may be a better idea to try and find a DR that will give you an answer to your issues.

In the mean time you are welcome to read and learn all you can.

Take care and good luck.

Amethist