Holding Space

[221177]

I've recently been contemplating what it is that's needed in a therapist relationship for me, and above anything else, because I know the self healing process lies within and is in my capable (and so often seemingly incapable) hands, I realise that the therapist's role really is just about holding space for the most vunerable aspects for me to be unmasked.

I've been toying with the ideas of going completely solo when exploring hidden aspects of myself and the inner pain, but because it can be so overwhelming, it's often hard to keep those aspects in context, and to come away from them intact with the loving parental head still on my shoulders.

Having a therapist suggest ways of coping with this when in session can help, but at times a part of me can come up feeling resentful for being told anything, instead what is more often needed, is that sacred space to just be held for me. By this space I mean a sense of trust with another person, where there are no judgements, no expectations, no words, no actions, just someone present to let me be, and to let that part of me unravel herself. It's not so much about the therapist or someone else accepting me, it's just knowing that someone else is witnessing my presence, and not trying to usher me away, silence me, fuss over me, judge me, punish me, or anything else, just be.

I'm so looking forward to this primal painfully yet liberating moment. :)

 

[anthony]

I think you nailed good therapy on the head...

 

[Heather]

I had to read this about 4 times and put the t.v. on mute. I wish I had a printer. I want to show this to my therapist. I think this is one of the most well written things on here I've read:)

 

[ronin47]

Thank you for this wonderful insight. That was something that made a big difference for me in therapy. When the T turned that little sign around and closed the door, that little office was my space. I'm sure he treated all his clients with the same attention, but for that one hour out of the week, it was all about me; who I was, what I needed, and what I had to say. That was a relief to be able to make myself the priority with someone there who wouldn't make me feel like I was doing something wrong by it.

 

[starshine]

Safe space is vital. Safe space, containment/holding and acceptance.

 

[221177]

I had to read this about 4 times and put the t.v. on mute. I wish I had a printer. I want to show this to my therapist. I think this is one of the most well written things on here I've read:)

Aww bless you x