Honouring The Progress You Have Made

[BloomInWinter]

1. I am able to handle the work stress of the noise now. It seems to have finally normalized out.
2. I am eating better.
3. I have begun reading for enjoyment again, a few paragraphs at a time.
4. I travelled to a large city with a friend, and was able to deal with it all.
5. I gave a phone interview for a radio station.
6. I stood up for myself, many times.
7. I went to my daughter's science fair and was able to tolerate the crowd and noise just fine. ...and to say hello to the people I like and ignore those I don't care for...or who I think don't care for me. ...and let it go.

 

[piratelady]

I really liked this idea back in April. I think, since then, I have lost site of my achievements along the way, so I figured I would try this exercise again :)

3 achievements for the month
1. I managed to hold it together at work and got my promotion.
2. I finally learned who gets the blame for the abuse I endured, and it's not me.
3. I have started taking up some relaxing hobbies, rather than sitting around ruminating on my misery.

3 changes we have made in our lives
1. I have begun eating healthier and trying to reduce the amount of emotional eating I am doing.
2. I have found a new therapist and am committed to making lasting changes and being honest and open.
3. I have created a budget that I can manage to I can start saving for some bigger items I want.

One issue or challenge to work on during the upcoming month
I am going to start building a life for myself outside of work and try to meet some new people.

 

[maddog]

These are awesome Piratelady, huge congratulations to you for some really big milestones.

You remind me that I too have neglected this thread...

MD

 

[Loloma]

I have achieved what I never thought I could.

• Living in the present and not in the past.
• Trying not to look too far into the future and taking one day at a time.
• I am no longer a victim.
• Waking up in the morning feeling happy and positive.

Can't get much better than that. ;)

 

[DharmaGirl]

3 achievements for the month1. I worked through a huge therapy challenge
2. I applied for 15 jobs and I feel ready to work part time.
3. I took control of my medication choices!
3 changes we have made in our lives
1. I have been eating better food choices
2. I have joined a pool again!
3. I'm walking my dogs every day
One issue or challenge to work on during the upcoming month
I am going to start working on DBT with 3 other girlfriends. A sort of informal weekly group.

 

[Philippa]

Ok, this thread is great. Nice to see so much progress being acknowledged here. Lots of this stuff is really really hard to do, so you're all very strong and brave for doing what you are doing.

3 achievements for the month: I handled the situation with my manager with maturity and wisdom, by getting witnesses before I played her voicemail messages and threats, and for contacting the relevant authorities (even if they didn't help me one bit.), and reached out for help from allies, protected myself and stood up to her without showing her any fear or giving into the intimidation tactics she was pulling on me. I have also been focussing on my blessings and the new life I have and not worrying too much about her threat to ruin my career and the malicious and untrue gossip she has spread about me, in her delusion and mean-spiritedness. I did all the right things, and feel like I won.

I have been cooking more, which was my goal, as I had previously been eating so much take away before I found my own home. Eating healthy and nurturing myself with good food.

I have resolved to push forward with my new business, and am attending a networking opportunity this saturday, in spite of that bitches attempts to make sure I don't succeed in the industry. Anyone who listens to her isn't someone I want to have for a client anyway. I'm going to succeed in this, and that will be my revenge on her.

3 changes I have made in my life: I have not been giving in to answering emails and calls from my father. I have cut him off, and I am better off for it. The turmoil of it all is starting to pass, thankfully, and I am seeing more and more that it is the right thing to do for me at this time. I am in control of who I allow into my world, and who I give chances to...and it is not something they are just entitled to, it's something they need to earn.

I have a new kitten to play with, and she is the ultimate companion. I am the happiest I have ever been, and smile so much these days...which was one of the things I wanted to change to work toward feeling good again and being happy.

I stand up for myself much more easily and without hesitation these days. This was a major goal for me a few years ago, and I have really used nearly every opportunity that has presented itself as a way to practise getting better at this, and I have succeeded. It is more like second nature for me now than it ever has been. I don't let my family get away with abuse anymore, or anyone. I cannot stop them from being abusive, but I can control what I take on, and choose to not expose myself to it.

1 issue or challenge to work on in the next month: Finding the right therapist.