How Are You Dealing With Seeing Your T After Christmas?

[Cool Cat]

You might remember me posting that I wouldn't be seeing my T for a month because of Christmas.

Well, I'm seeing him tomorrow for the first time in a month. I really haven't a clue how to 'do' therapy after such a long break. There are like, 200 things I could talk about and tonnes of things have happened to me in the last month, good and bad.

I've also noticed that this is the first time I've taken a break from therapy without falling into a SHing crisis mode. I almost feel a little bit independent from him. I almost feel a bit bad! Coming back after a month and not saying "I needed you so so badly".

But I still have a hell of a lot of things to work through.

How are you approaching post-Christmas-therapy?

 

[Changing4Best]

We spoke about it briefly, her just making sure that I had a good Christmas and season in general. I had a pressing physical/ medical issue though, so 99% of the session was about that. Thankfully, my medical test came back OK later, so I am very relieved and happy about that. She's my Facebook friend, so she knows about that now and is happy for me too, as I announced it there, that everything was OK.

 

[Justmehere]

Hey, congrats on not having a SH crisis! Good work! It's a good sign that your work with him has been very valuable.

I wrote down the top three things I want to talk about or work on, and I brought that list in with me so I can look at it. Otherwise I can get overwhelmed after a break and totally shut down.

 

[Changing4Best]

What is a "SH crisis"?

 

[Cool Cat]

@SheilaKathy I would just use it to describe being quite out of control emotionally and SHing

 

[Deleted member 1860]

@SheilaKathy,

SH stands for self harm.

I think that its GOOD that you are functioning better on your own. Remember, the point of therapy is to not need therapy, right? I'm more worried about the people I see posting about having the same therapist for 20 years as its obviously not working in terms of self sufficiency.

 

[Cool Cat]

Remember, the point of therapy is to not need therapy, right? I'm more worried about the people I see posting about having the same therapist for 20 years as its obviously not working in terms of self sufficiency.

Yeah I agree with this a lot. Funny enough, the closer I get to this therapy appointment I start feeling depressed and anxious again. Maybe a weekly session lifts the lid on things and you dont actually get the chance to function? Like because it's almost like pulling off a scab every few days.

I don't know though, you're right RE 20 years comment. I don't want to be in therapy that long but I still havent decided how long I want to be in for. A month without therapy and I've noticed the difference in my wallet too. Budgeting for expensive therapy and the stress of it can almost undo the good it does.

 

[Jane.l]

My first session after the holidays was really just spent getting back on track, a bit of a review of things that had happened while he had been away, you sound like you've done brilliantly, so it was a gentle session and really just catching up and reconnecting. I was worried my walls may be up having not seen him for a while but it was fine and reassuring that I hadn't slipped back too far. So take it slowly maybe.