How can i move on from this?

[12370053]

.... I was sexually abused as a kid by one of my family members. I repressed the memories for almost 10 years and decided to tell my family when I started to get to that age where I was starting puberty so naturally I was thinking about sex right? Well none of my family reacted the way I hoped they would. They made comments about how I should'v done this and that, what happened to me wasn't as bad as what happens to others, etc. My question is how do I forgive so I can try to move with my life? I don't want to resent my family for treating me like this but sometimes I can' handle it anymore. I'm constantly having flashbacks and feeling gross. I just want to have a normal relationship with my mom and grandparents.

 

[Justmehere]

A couple of questions that you don’t have to answer unless you would like to:

Are you a minor? Are you still living with your family?

Are you working with a therapist?

 

[12370053]

I'm not a minor. I just graduated high school so I'm still living with my family. I'm also currently trying to get my health insurance together so I can see a therapist again. The first one I went to wasn't helpful.

 

[CrystalCastles]

Hi! I too was sexually abused as a child but by my childhood friend, when I told my mom she said I brought shame on the family so I held it in for 14 years before telling anyone.
Key ways to help yourself would be:
Empowering yourself, if you feel they do not listen or comfort you well, go to another trusted person for support instead
Listen to EMDR music therapy which should really help over time & most importantly accept it was not your fault :) <3