How Do I Develop A Positive Relationship With My Weight?

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How do I turn this destructive way of thinking, into a positive and constructive manner of viewing myself, in which, I don’t beat up myself, up, every time, I gain a single gram? To stop the mental flagellation, I do to myself, after every month weigh-in, with my diabetic nurse, especially, when the weight loss is, only 300 grams.

For the record, part of my abuse, did invovled issues about my weight, as a child and an adult.

I think a concrete diet plan that doesn't involve counting calories and daily cardio would benefit you a lot. Remember, as we all learned from "Legally Blonde" --- "Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy."

May I recommend this book [which helped me lose 70 pounds in a healthy way] The Fat Smash Diet by Ian K. Smith, M.D. There is no calorie counting -- just a differing perception on how we view food.

Phase I -- 10 day detox. As many veggies and fruits as you like. Oatmeal. Beans. Brown rice. Get to know them and love them.
Phase II -- Congrats! You can eat chicken again.
Phase III -- You can start eating a bit normally now.

But, I cannot stress enough how much a little exercise can do to help change your idea about yourself. Sure, you feel sweaty, gross, and kinda like you're dying after a good workout, but you feel so good and proud of yourself! Plus, the better cardio-shape you're in, the better you are at sex. So, that's always a plus and another way to produce endorphins... because endorphins make us happy. And, an earth-shattering orgasm once in a while can make the difference between an edgy day and a daffodil-ious day.

I hope this helped. I'm always for body-positive and body-kindness changes. And, don't beat yourself up if you fall off the wagon. You just jump back on again.

 

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I wish I had the energy and mental capacity to answer you properly Theresa but I am afraid I don/t at present. Maybe it will happen. It sometimes does and sometimes doesn't.

I have travelled this road and have won. It took a lot of hard work and a long time but it did change and I believe can for every single one of us with body and eating issues. Like you these things were also caught up in a lot of other stuff.

Can you stop the weighing and monitoring? You can tell your dr to blind weigh you and not tell you your weight. I also recommend not wording anything related to weight gain ever as failure and weight loss ever as an achievement. Health and self care is a positive. There are no failures. Just leaning experiences. You don't have to look or be anything to have worth. You have worth because you are. It is innate. You have that worth no matter what you eat or don't eat or look like or don't look like or do or don't do.

Your body wants to be a certain weight. When it is that weight it will be content and you will be honouring it. Not honouring it is being unkind and abusive to it.