How Do We Win?

[JarHed]

Hey Raven,

If we allowed non-vets here I could hear some of the comments like, ...........................In fact I won't even go there, you can fill in that blank yourself. A lot of men are intimidated by strong, take charge, successful, no nonsense type of women. They're the only ones I ever found interesting.

 

[dutchiedelta]

Hey Raven,

A lot of men are intimidated by strong, take charge, successful, no nonsense type of women. They're the only ones I ever found interesting.

Really? Got a single brother with the same cojones?
Cos most men run a mile thinking you're going to be the man about the house.

 

[JarHed]

I don't or can't say what works for others in a relationship. But for my wife and I it's a partnership. That denotes that both parties are involved. We do things together, we do things apart. We both have things we do for each other and to keep things both short and long term going. We're a team. I don't know how she's put up with me all these years but she has. I can be a real dickhead sometimes, but not all the time. She can be and is usually a very sweet person, but can also be like a Drill Sargent when she has to. Dare I use the L word, yes we love each other but more than that, we're friends and care about each other. We're both lucky that we found each other in this world and believe me it is luck.

Being a man isn't about having to prove anything to anyone, only yourself. As always, just my opinions.

Jar

 

[Raven]

Really? Got a single brother with the same cojones?
Cos most men run a mile thinking you're going to be the man about the house.

How much do you tend to isolate and push people away? It's a common effect of the Beast and I think we'very all been there at some point.

But you can't start dating someone until you meet him first. You may be more of a hermit than you realize. I was for a little while, and then I wondered why nobody wanted to be with me.

 

[OldDoorGunner]

I don't or can't say what works for others in a relationship. But for my wife and I it's a partnership. That denotes that both parties are involved. We do things together, we do things apart. We both have things we do for each other and to keep things both short and long term going. We're a team. I don't know how she's put up with me all these years but she has. I can be a real dickhead sometimes, but not all the time. She can be and is usually a very sweet person, but can also be like a Drill Sargent when she has to. Dare I use the L word, yes we love each other but more than that, we're friends and care about each other. We're both lucky that we found each other in this world and believe me it is luck.

Being a man isn't about having to prove anything to anyone, only yourself. As always, just my opinions.

Jar

Jar, That sounds just like my wife and I in how our relationship works....Like you, I don't know how she puts up with some of my Shit, but she does!!!! But on the other hand, she can be a shit as well at times. So it gets evened out in the long run.
Long run........will be 27 years this coming Nov....

J R

 

[Sarg]

Ditto here, Jar! You could have been describing my wife and I. Raven, that's where I'm at right now. And it will be even more lonely without my dog around. I've got to find a way to break out of this mold and go out and meet people. I have an appointment with my shrink soon and will see what he says. I feel like Huey Newton sings..."I want a new drug...".

This town has some of the best music venues you'll find for a town this size, due to the college here. I'm missing some really good acts. So, I gotta get out! Find a wall to lean against, I suppose.

Sarg

 

[dutchiedelta]

How much do you tend to isolate and push people away? It's a common effect of the Beast and I think we'very all been there at some point.

But you can't start dating someone until you meet him first. You may be more of a hermit than you realize. I was for a little while, and then I wondered why nobody wanted to be with me.

Raven I am fully aware of isolating and not letting anyone near me.
I'm single by choice and intend to keep it that way.
There have been men interested in me and I quickly realised two important things.
One is that I tend to attract men that either want a battle or feel intimidated quickly.
Two is that it's (to me) not worth the hassle.
It's fine, no worries :)

 

[Raven]

I have a very dominant personality, but I don't like submissive men. I also don't like alpha males who act as the ringleader for a bunch of friends.

The only men I ever clicked with were neither. They were loner alphas, if that makes any sense.

 

[atilla]

My wife and I are celebrating our wedding anniversary today. Sarg, ODG, and Jar, Im lucky like you guys are to have a real partner in this bullshit with the beast. It's good to have a best friend that you can trust to have your six through all the shit and throuh the good times also. As for hardcore alpha females....yeah baby!, they rock. Never trust a woman that can't shoot...lol. Hope all of you have a great day. Peace.

 

[dutchiedelta]

Makes perfect sense Raven. That's the description.
I'm probably a fair few years older then you and the older you get, the less compatible people there are. Either by being set in our ways or simply dried up supply chain.

Atilla, congratulations on your wedding anniversary. Hope you guys have a great day.

 

[atilla]

Thanks Dutchie, I wish all of us a great day.

 

[Grizzly]

Happy anniversary bro!