How Do You All Do Those Trauma Diaries?

[Gs172003]

I have written about my grandpa as well. He was the only person that I felt unconditional love...

He was and still is the one that was the "dad" figure in my life. He and my grandma were who we moved in with where she was mean he was awesome. Funny thing is I'll say how great grandpa is and my mom will say " he just liked kids" invalidating the way I feel about our relationship. Sometimes I think my mom just sucks.

 

[Silver.]

You could print out your pictures, and do a mashup, and then write about what was going on in the pics, the reason you took it, how it makes you feel? Or just write what you want and then find a pic you have taken to paste/glue onto the page, inspiration??
(as you might be able to tell, I am big on incorporating what we love to do with something that is hard to do)

It's not right for people to try and invalidate how you feel about your grandfather, but it's something special you had, and other people's words cannot take that from you x

 

[Gs172003]

You could print out your pictures, and do a mashup, and then write about what was going on in the pics,...

Thank you. My mom has treated me and my kids poorly for years. Like I'm somehow "different". Not sure why.

It is what it is.

As far as the pictures I might try that one day. Thanks

 

[shimmerz]

My mom has treated me and my kids poorly for years.

Scapegoating maybe. Which means that it has nothing to do with you and is no reflection on your character.

 

[Gs172003]

I live across the street from her. I'll invite her to things and she'll stay ten minutes. But she will stay all evening at my siblings functions. Just an example

 

[shimmerz]

Zoogal, I had a family like that. I won't get into the details. Exclusion from family is so incredibly hurtful. It has taken me a very long time to realize that family dynamics rarely have anything to do with the person being excluded. It has more to do with the person excluding. Doesn't help, I know, and watching your own children being part of said dynamic is beyond painful.

I am so sorry you are going through this. Much respect to you.

 

[Gs172003]

Zoogal, I had a family like that. I won't get into the details. Exclusion from family is so incredib...

Thank you

 

[The Albatross]

It was intensely personally for me. Why was "I" so resistant to writing? Just food for thought here.

 

[Friday]

<chuckling> what makes you think we don't spend an hour in the loo shaking and puking?

 

[Gs172003]

<chuckling> what makes you think we don't spend an hour in the loo shaking and puking?

I don't. I don't know why y'all do it

 

[The Albatross]

To get past it/deal with it/push through it. Life can and does go on ya know. If you get stuck at traumas that ain't gonna bode well for the rest/all that comes afterwards, eh?

I did not though spend an hour shaking or puking. I goal timed that one too and it wasn't as long as my "mind" said it was... the shaking... never did puke but felt like it.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

I was terrified to start a members trauma diary. Didn't for a long time and all my "junk" were threads. After a long while and talking about it with people and not knowing how to start it, I just started it with my story and worked out from there.

What's so great about it is you can use it as you please within the rules of the forum and it's just nice to have a place to put odd "junk".

Today I use it to work out stuff, and just post odd *doesn't fit anywhere else or enough to be a thread* "junk". It is just so nice to have it.