Childhood How Do You Cope Today ?

[Truthful_Whispers]

Taking things one minute at a time

 

[Ronin]

I'm late on this thread and confused................oops. Sorry all!!!!!

It's cool, you've done nothing wrong.

I've answered the question assuming maaybe the poster isn't a creep, just someone struggling with articulating what their actual issue is and rather talking of other things they have words for & can express better / more freely, as well. Sadly not the case, but it's not wrong of people to answer seriously, or answer at all.

 

[JEKBreatheandBelieve]

I've answered the question assuming maaybe the poster isn't a creep, just someone struggling with articulating what their actual issue is and rather talking of other things they have words for & can express better / more freely, as well. Sadly not the case, but it's not wrong of people to answer seriously, or answer at all.

Thank you for writing that. Makes me feel better because I was feeling ashamed that I had responded.

 

[Ronin]

No shame.

Shame's on him for exploiting people that are used to answer questions to protect themselves & their loved ones, regularly.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

It's not uncommon for people to troll sexual abuse sites/forums and ask for details about how people cope - not in order to share in recovery, but for their own sexual gratification and fantasies.

Thats incrediablly disturbing! Makes me want to coil inside. Thanks for catching it!

 

[dejayb]

Not

 

[manzie]

I am a survivor of CSA. My father was the main abuser and my mother was the enabler. Although I enjoy...

I so can relate to this as I was sexually abused by a few people that were trusted people and I myself is also a very sexual person when in a relationship but I don't feel bad about this as I do feel this is one of my better things I do right as well as being a good house wife just wished I could better manage my anger tho but its a work in process and is getting better with each episode.

 

[Selfcompassion7]

Thanks a lot for all the contributions !!!

Maybe I should have been more clear about it: I think my ver...

Abuse, is abuse, is abuse. It is damaging, and can be pervasive. I've had emotional, physical, sexual abuse/neglect. I have done every therapy you can imagine. I finally, came to the conclusion I needed to focus on me, my healing of all my trauma, especially my childhood trauma that conditioned me to make bad choices and tolerate abuse.
It has been an incredible journey of self caring, self compassion, self discovery, and spiritual growth.
I now am grateful for everything that happened. It all was perfection in the sense that it motivated me to become the person I am now. I have with a great deal of success turned it all into a positive. It took a lot of work, a lot of painful greiving, and a lot of focused energy.
I have claimed my sexual It back. It is now a wonderful way to have fun, celebrate life, and connect. I come from a place of compassion, non judgement, accepted center for others, and those with an abusive nature learn to steer away, as I'm too much trouble to bother with now.
I am so solid and so grounded, I recognize them, but don't fear them. They truly lack courage, and like easy prey.
I've mentally shifted and reframed it all.
I realized I have control and a choice on how I could react to ALL of it.
I have complex PTSD. I always will. I am codependent. I learned the skill of mentally stepping outside of myself and being very aware and watching my behaviors, feelings, etc. I stopped fighting my symtoms. I embraced them in a blanket of compassion, and unconditional acceptence. I surrendered to every awful feeling of pain, depression, and terror until it just....went away. They were a part of me, and I felt my way to health.
Tapping into my fetal infant abuse, where it all started, was hard. It was all preverbal. It was emotional flashbacks, without cognitive content. Horrors so unimaginable, they were so repressed. I visualized going back and loving my baby self. I reparented her. I felt the pain, bit by bit, as I could tolerate it. I loved and honored myself, and healed. In this manner.
I'm not the same person, I was anymore. I'm grateful now...for all of it, because it led me here.