How do you stop being selfish?

[pink318]

I spent some time reflecting on my own behaviours - a lot of time actually, and realised that for much of my life I have been a very selfish person. I noticed that I didn't care too much about how other people felt either. I feel terrible about these and other things about myself. I want to stop being this way but.. I am not sure.. how do I stop it?

Hi- I used to be a selfish person, focusing only on what I want. I noticed that I could not be happy if I stay that way. I was reading an article and I passed by this quote, “You will never be happy as long as you are focusing at yourself. Go and serve others.” One of the ways not to be selfish is by focusing on others’ needs. My family is involved in a local church, we reach out to homeless people and feed them. It’s a wonderful feeling knowing that we can help others who are really in need. You can also try to look for opportunities to help others, it could be a friend who needs someone to talk to or connect with your community or local church.

Hope to hear from you again. May God’ blessings be upon you. Take care.

 

[RVA21]

@Hopefulphoenix everything you said really resonated with me, makes so much sense. thanks for your post :)

Today I made the effort to ask someone about themselves and really showed an interest, it felt so much better conversing like that, people like to be asked about themselves! :) And they have interesting things to say :)

@pink318 Thank you, this makes sense to me too. I watched something earlier on about letting go - not just of material things we don't need, but of feelings too. And instead of focusing on us, to focus on others and help them. This is the right way to go :) It's the way I'm going to go from now on, stopping being self absorbed and take the time and energy to show interest in others.

It's hard when you weren't raised how to do this but I do believe like @The Albatross says, it can be changed.

I still feel guilty about people from my past who didn't always get my full attention though. I didn't deserve them.