How Does Everyone Else Stay Busy?

[idunno]

Hello, I don't know if this has been commented on or not before. I have an issue where everyone else seems to always be busy doing something. With my PTSD, this is not a good time of year for me to be alone all the time without anything to do but drive myself crazy with thoughts. I believe I do not have a whole lot to do because I also have slight/moderate OCD, causing me to clean all the time. There is never any cleaning, organizing or laundry to do. As soon as I see it, I will take care of it.

I do have a little dog that has saved my life quite a few times, and I enjoy involving her in what I do. I just wonder how it is, everyone else seems to be so busy. Do people just not "hang out" as often when they get older? I do have a few hobbies/projects, but I still seem to have a lot of down time. I worry that my constant worrying will keep knocking me down.

I do have a handful of really good friends, but we do not see each other often (either cause they are busy or not in state). I have friends at work too, but not too many people that I hang out with, just to stay busy and have something to do. I dunno anymore. So lost and confused.

 

[Ruth09]

My T has told me I should get out and just "try something",... "anything".

Find a group of people than like to do the same thing,... making friends will soon follow.

She told me that since I was good with kids (even though I have none of my own), I should volunteer to teach soccer to little kids. She said it would be easy. Because no matter what I could teach them, they would just all bundle up in the middle of the field trying to go after the ball at the same time. I've seen this happen time and again at my local soccer fields,... its actually pretty funny.

I'd take my dog with me to the games and just watch. It was a way of getting out.

I have tried hanging out with other dog people in my area. Meetup.com is a good place to find out what people are doing in your area.

Unfortunately, other dog people in my area are usually involved with their dogs, so socialization among the humans was lacking,... the dogs, however, seemed to have a great time.

I did go back to school about two years ago, and I made a few friends from than experience.

But, yeah,... you have to find your niche.

Staying at home and bitching about it isn't going to help.

Now, if I can only follow my own advice. :)

Ruth

 

[Sazza]

I to have trouble with an interest to keep me busy when all other daily things are taken care of. I use to go to alot of fitness classes and loved it but these days i seem to have lost my way and confidence in doing those things. When i don't keep a routine though i notice my health suffers, i have yet to find my niche. I know when well exercise is one of them but i find it hard trying new things or having an interest in doing things cause my mood gets in the way. I guess we have to try things though there must be something out there for all of us.

I use to love learning but my head is that frazzled these days, so guess bit like you i find it hard to be busy when usual daily things are done.

 

[kimba]

I use my time to do "house projects". A coat of paint can change a room. If I were really creative I would make pillows for my sofa or curtains for my windows. Crossword or find-a-word puzzles are quick and easy ways to keep your mind working and good for distracting too.

I don't know where you live, but if you have a patio, garden or a yard and it is decent weather where you are, you could plan and lay out seeds, plants or make a pathway with stones or bricks. Volunteering even a couple of hours at a time at a shelter of some kind helps too. It makes you feel better knowing you are helping someone else.