I wish I could help more, @Still Standing , but your situation is your own. I really hope your hubby can hang in there. It sounds to me like he will, but you're the expert.
At least in my case, I really feel it's a balancing act. I asked my hubby how much he wants to know about my traumas, and he really doesn't want to know much, which is fine with me, because I have my T and you guys. I don't need to have him take all that on as well. We need one relatively trauma-free person in our relationship and it won't help us to have both of us having nightmares about my traumas :). I should mention, also, that his mom came down with MS when he was a little kid, and he says that growing up with a mom who became so chronically ill helped prepare him to be with me, even though neither of us had any idea when we got together that I would come down with PTSD.
At least in my case, I really feel it's a balancing act. I asked my hubby how much he wants to know about my traumas, and he really doesn't want to know much, which is fine with me, because I have my T and you guys. I don't need to have him take all that on as well. We need one relatively trauma-free person in our relationship and it won't help us to have both of us having nightmares about my traumas :). I should mention, also, that his mom came down with MS when he was a little kid, and he says that growing up with a mom who became so chronically ill helped prepare him to be with me, even though neither of us had any idea when we got together that I would come down with PTSD.