How Does Someone Make You Feel Alone?

[iwannadeletethis]

Verbal abuse is abuse...full stop. There is a difference between someone ranting about not wanting t...

Thanks <3 @illusionist the verbal abuse kills my trust, because he contradicts himself and I view him as flaky.

And no, he doesn't believe that this is just unemployment based anxiety. It honestly did start when I lost my job and was completely heart broken. He was weirded out by the amount of emotions coming out of me. I tell him what I can, but I have to pound it into his head because he hears what he wants to hear and relays it back in the form of severe doubt or negativity. He's scared and handles it very poorly.

 

[spmitchell3]

Is that them or you?

For me - I end up feeling alone because my wife, who has PTSD and recently started EMDR therapy, gives the appearance that she doesn't care. If I tell her I'm feeling lonely she shuts down and doesn't say anything. She eventually told me it's not that she doesn't care - she simply doesn't know what to say or how to respond. I understand that better now so it helps.

 

[winterwishes_4_summerkisses]

It could be either or. Do you have a history of trouble feeling connected to people? Do they acknowledg...

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No. And, i'm really not sure if I buy this whole PTSD thing or not. My ex marine if that's what you want to call him claimed he had PTSD and for me not to take it personal. I continued contact although he showed no interest and waited and gave him space for 3 years. Just found out on Facebook he was secretly married. He doesn't deserve his military medals because he was a low life scum.

 

[winterwishes_4_summerkisses]

believe it's the latter. PTSD is an excuse for military personnel looking to get out of a relationship. While my ex in every sense of the word EX was stationed in Baghdad I waited for his and we were together for 10 years. he came home and proposed to me and we were engaged another 6 years. Then one day he decided to move away without me! How thoughtful. He never gave me an address or phone number. It became rapidly clear that he was not the man I thought he was, and he used PTSD as his excuse. I finally got in touch with him and he said it wasn't me and it was him and that I shouldn't take it personal and that he still cared about me but it was his personality and he would call me to explain. Well he never called and every call that I made to him was conveniently ignored. I just found out that it wasn't me so he was right. It was someone else that he was married to. Yet, he says don't take it personal. I wish I had never waited for him, and I wish I never believed in him. I have no more respect for him EVER. He fought the war but couldn't fight for us to be together. This was a slap in the face. He is a pathetic, habitual liar.

 

[iwannadeletethis]

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No. And, i'm really not sure if I buy this whole PTSD thing or not. My ex marine i...

I'm sorry you had that experience! It sounds like he was using an illness as an excuse to be an asshole. That's not fair to you or anyone else. I assure you my flashbacks, sleeping with my eyes open, anxiety attacks and triggers are very real. But I work with the people that will work with me. I don't disappear I fight through it with the love and support of others.