How Often Do You Have Good Days?

[Abstract]

The work I have done on the development of my self, giving up unhealthy coping methods, assertiveness and safety in relationships, improving depressive thinking and self awareness/improvement of dissociation have all made such a difference to me.

It's hard to describe but despite there not being any days when I can sleep, where there are not things that set me off and I am not in battle with myself, I do have a much better quality of life all in all. And so I think for me I can say there are good days.

Days where I feel ike a person and where the self hatred isn't all encompassing. Where the depressive symptoms are not such that I am suicidal or struggle to move my body.

I truly think not having a developed self and having unhealthy coping habits makes everything a hundred times worse.

 

[rightkindofme]

I highly recommend everybody try some type of physical activity.....it's bloody hard to take those first few steps admittedly.

I took up running in my 30's. I'm shocked that I like it but I do.

 

[stuff]

I highly recommend everybody try some type of physical activity.....it's bloody hard to take those first few steps admittedly.

Absolutely! The best advice on the planet! That has been a huge factor for things getting better. I think having an outlet for excess adrenaline is really important. I think part of my problem with relapse stuff lately is that I'm not nearly as active as I was last year, mostly due to the change in the type of work I am doing. I really need to commit to maintaining a certain level of physical activity and remember I'm doing myself a huge favour when I do. It even helps with sleeping a bit.

 

[Misul]

Rightkindofme ,

I really want to kick this agoraphobia so I can go running. I just want to run and run and forget everything.

Misul

 

[rightkindofme]

I actually started by doing laps inside my house. I have a loop through the kitchen/hallway. I would slowly add minutes until I was "running" for half an hour because I was starting from a very sedentary place and I was afraid to go out.

I found that as I felt like I could outrun potential danger I felt braver about going out.

And today I moved a (literal) ton of concrete. I have no detectable level of anxiety because I am so exhausted. It feels kind of nice to be inside a quiet head. :)

 

[Misul]

Awesome!!! Lately, I've been doing lunges to get my thighs in shape. Wow, are they tough, but I love doing them! Congrats on getting brave enough to go out! I'm working on it... albeit slowly... but I'm going to recruit the help of my therapist next time I see her.

 

[Chincho]

I'm starting to have good days, after 4 years of bad days.

As some have said, when I have a good day I feel suspicious, as if something bad will happen any minute. So I guess calling them "okay" days is better than saying "good" days

 

[heidi]

I think it's interesting we have these. It definitely feels like I'm just passing through. I just think it's so strange that it's possible to get there. I've been charting my good days for some time now and there seems to be no correlation between what I'm doing to try to be proactive and having them.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I can relate to how you feel.

Years ago, I was a basket case and did not have any good days.

But after many years of recovery I can manage my symptoms much better and I am not suffering as much, although the nightmares have started up again. I just lost my husband recently and I attribute it to repressed feelings as I was his care giver for three years and just survived it.

I realized that I do not pick the days, they pick me. I push myself constantly to feel better and I am in a lot of grief now and having to rebuild my life being burnt out and exhausted so I expect my symptoms will prove to be a challenge for awhile.

I made a therapy appointment today to help me with the grief and my issues.

I had EMDR and it healed me of so many painful memories that had haunted me for all of my life. It was a life changing experience not to be tortured and tormented by the painful memories.

So I have more good days, but I have to work at it and push myself. On the bad days, I say the hell with it and just hibernate.

I wish you well and good luck. It does get better in time. It really sucks that it takes so much time to heal and recover. Hugs.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I have not too many days good. I have a good day tomorrow. I will have to survive the rest of the week.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Good days, perhaps. Good enough days, definitely not.

I'm so hard on myself. I always think I could have done more. I guess a part of me thinks that to label a day as good means that I have low standards when I want to do so much more in life. Of course I have symptom free days. But at the same time I don't have enough symptom free days to be able to work. (I had it critically pounded into me as a child that I wasn't good enough so I still struggle to get away from that line of thinking and those people. It is difficult.)

 

[heidi]

I guess 'good days' are really 'symptom-free days'. I still find these days very strange. Normally when you are suffering and you start to feel a little better it's by degrees. It's unusual to be doing so completely bad, almost as bad as humanly possible, and then have a day where it's alright and there is just a total absence of symptoms. It's odd and it's also intriguing.

Even if there is no cure, if we are capable of having good days like this then maybe there is hope in these days. Because honestly when I have a 'good day' or a 'symptom-free day' it feels like something I could only dream of.

Of course a bad day can come in a flash, but maybe in terms of the goals of therapy and intervention there is something in good days that can be recognized, understood and strived for.

At this moment it feels like the concept of 'good days' aren't widely recognized and discussed in the psychiatric community. Am I wrong? Do they have awareness that it's possible to have fully recovered days that just float about randomly?

I've never heard or read anything about it. Only personally have i experienced it and only here have I read about it. Thoughts?