How To Find The Balance

[Gs172003]

I can see your point. You are right. I need to back away and figure it out. I have this deep need to...

I'm the same way and have been abused because of it. Don't do that to yourself

 

[Maddy2012]

I texted with him yesterday. He hadn't replyed to my text, and I wrote to him, how I felt. That I'm having trouble feeling wanted and unwanted. He wrote, that he was sorry, and we would figure this out together. I wrote to him today with a date for my first hypno terapi. He has promised to go with me. He accepted the date, which is next week, but he wanted to push my next visit to next week too. So we are not going to each other this week either. I'm really upset and angry right now. I feel sad, that he is doing everything, he can to push the time, and I feel humiliated, that I'm the only one, who really want us to be together. I have to have a serious talk with him about this. I don't want to go on like this. But I want to wait until we are face to face. But I don't know, what to do with all my anger right now. I can't focus on anything. My mind is circling around this, and I want to solve this right now and not wait for a week.

 

[Hojay]

Ugh, yes, it seems to be all on his terms. If you have something to discuss with him you have every right to plan a meeting with him that is on your terms too. If you need to meet this week, tell him that. If he refuses, you can decide and tell him next week doesn't work for YOU, get whatever you want to say off your chest on the phone or in an email, and leave it at that. You have a right to voice your opinion whenever you want. He can't dictate everything.

In the meantime, maybe it's good to write down for yourself exactly what you feel - get all your anger and frustration out. Go for a long walk, the gym, something to get yourself out of your head, then return with new resolve. Anger is a good sign, though, it's an appropriate reaction to this and can be quite useful when channeled well.