How To Reason And Argue

[shimmerz]

I mentioned this in another posting as an 'incidental'. I am doing this course which is a free online course (MOOC) through Coursera. It is the second time I have started it and hope to finish it this time. I think it took me a bit to digest it last time so I quit it (I was also moving now that I think about it).

It is called 'Think Again: How to Reason and Argue' and is helping me BIG time in understanding the difference between what I think an argument is and what a reasonable argument is. The first part of this course is really good too because it refers to a Monty Python skit called Argument that puts humour into arguments.

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Just thought I would post this as it has really given me a new perspective on the subject.

 

[shimmerz]

Abusive Assurance
They abuse you to get you to agree with them by making a conditional abuse that applies to you only if you happen to disagree with them. For example, 'Everyone knows that!' or 'It's just common sense that...'
or somehow implying that you are an idiot for not agreeing with them.
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[Recovery4Me]

Can anyone sign up? If so, place in the link, please. :tup::hug:

I went a free 15 CBT on-line course and it was awesome. I would love to go over 'dialoging' again if stateside is permitted.

 

[shimmerz]

Yes, it originates from Duke University (coursera.org) so I am guessing you would have access before I did given my location, @Recovery4Me . You will need to create an account but I have had one for ages and there has been no bad from it.

Seriously, if I had known half of this stuff I wouldn't have spent most of my life spinning around in my head because people were feeding me useless garbage that I thought I had to ward off.

 

[KwanYingirl]

Shoveling sand against the tide...

 

[Recovery4Me]

@shimmerz I just wanted to pop in to light a candle for your journey's rest and let you know prayers are with you. Although knowing a clearer method for communication is always sound...it will not stop the 'other' from being unkind.

Please be kind to you and know you are lovable no matter how -or- who you are in the moment, my warrior-friend.:hug::tup:

**Just found the site! So excited and will get back you on it.:hug:

 

[shimmerz]

@Recovery4Me , thank you so much for this. I am not thiking right at this point due to another attack but I will get back to you when I am clearer. :hug::hug:

 

[shimmerz]

Although knowing a clearer method for communication is always sound...it will not stop the 'other' from being unkind.

This is a great reminder, thank you! I stopped, thought about this and realized that in putting it into perspective, I have wasted so much time not knowing how to deal with MY thought processes when someone attempts to argues with me. I thought all arguments were the same! I am learning I shouldn't be afraid of them. Honestly, My brain would completely lock up (freeze) on me if anything resembled what I considered to be an argument. I guess I learned as a child that I could never win any argument - I never had a chance. Now I can choose to engage or not and even just knowing that has taken the 'freeze' out of me. I can actually talk this week if someone starts to back me into a corner! Life changing.....

I am so happy that you like the site! Let me know how it goes for you! :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

 

[Recovery4Me]

Signed up @shimmerz for a positive psychology course that starts in Feb. So I thank you.:notworthy:

Let me know about how your class is going and some thought. (You can even throw in a paper or so right here!) Why not? We all love to learn here!:tup::hug:

 

[Recovery4Me]

@shimmerz wanted you to know that I started the Positive Psychology Class today!! Can't thank you enough. :hug: xx

 

[shimmerz]

So glad you are enjoying @Recovery4Me !!