Sufferer Hurting

[J'qel]

I too, was in an abusive romantic relationship-two of them actually. Both of them I thought that if I just worked hard enough it would get better. It didn't, and from what I hear, it still hasn't.

One I left and the second exploded in my face. The explosion is the only thing good that really happened in that relationship in that it got me out before even worse happened.

I understand you love him until the world ends (or something very similar), but you should go. You won't feel any different until you do. And even that will take time. You need to be safe though. Abuse does get worse, and the more you forgive the worse it gets.

It hurts and it will hurt, but putting it off is not a good idea.

As others have said, we're here regardless of what you decide, but please, please stay safe.

 

[ladee]

It is just not that simple, I know it should be, I just wish he would get better.

Just as we wish for you to be safe.
There are many women here who have been where you are. They understand exactly what you are feeling and experiencing.
He may not be ready for help.....But somewhere inside you you want help or you would not have reached out.
Can you take that tiny part of you that no longer wants to be hurt and let these very coragious women help you.
To prepare...to find resorces for help?
No one is judging you..but they do know from thier own painful experience..it only gets worse.
Tell your story and let them help.
Hugs for the courage to take care of yourself.