Relationship Husband focused on memories/past

[ptsdspouse]

my husband is shutting down (becoming reclused and not talking). (yes he is in Therapy)
I give him space and still give him encouragement. my husband focuses on what has happened in the past before we were married. he states you cant change a stripe on a cat, he is just waiting for something to happen, looking for something wrong to happen. I ensure him that I love him and that I married him knowing there are issues. That traumatic childhood and adult PTSD are a long term issue that will be dealt with over time. my husband has set goal that we can work towards in our marriage, but most are things to do, like build a cabin, build a greenhouse and maintain then both. He tells me frequently that he hopes that he can keep coming up with goals, And he will be glad when we finally get to move because it will be better where I don't know everyone. I agree it would be easier when we live in an area where I don't know everyone. he says that he is sure it will be better when we move but memories last forever.
I am having difficultly even responding to such statements, I try to remain positive and look for the future and all that it holds.
any suggestions with this situation

 

[Sweetpea76]

Moving won't help. He needs to work on his attitude.

Does he have any reason to suspect that you'll cheat on him?

 

[PTSD spouse]

a former acquaintances saw me in Walmart and hugged me I didn't return the hug but he thought something was going on then even though the only place I go without my husband is to work.
his thing is I didn't attempt to stop the hug from happening so I must want it. and if I am willing to give up a hug then who knows what else I would give up .

 

[Hojay]

I think you may need to clarify a little. Your husband suffers from PTSD, but the issue you’d like to discuss here is him being hung up on his suspicion of you? You say he wants to move. Is that a reaction based on the hug you mentioned? Or was there more to cause him to suspect you of something? Have you considered couples counseling?

 

[Sweetpea76]

Indulging his ridiculous notions won't help anything. If you didn't cheat on him, and nothing ever happened, why let him isolate you away from everybody?

He needs to unf*ck himself. Controlling you more is not the answer.

 

[Sighs]

Please listen to @Sweetpea76 - if you’re being blamed for not stopping someone else hugging you things are not good.