Husband is clinging and staring me down

[anonymous]

@anonymous maybe if your therapist isn’t prepared to discuss your situation then as hard and unnerving/difficult as it must be maybe it’s time to “have the conversation” with your husband after all if you cannot be your self how can you possibly be happy and move forward if it seems like a lost cause?
Sending you courage and confidence

 

[anonymous]

@anonymous maybe if your therapist isn’t prepared to discuss your situation then...

I actually have had the conversation with my husband. He knows, but is in denial. I quit talking about it.

 

[anonymous]

Denial can sometimes be a tough one,if you have met a potential new female partner maybe if you were to introduce her to him it may bring him out of denial and make the whole situation easier for you and more real for your husband.

also it would make it much easier for him to accept that you no longer wish to be with him anymore I do hope this is helpful to you.
Sending you sunshine and warmth

 

[anonymous]

Denial can sometimes be a tough one,if you have met a potential new female partner maybe if you were...

Thanks. I don’t have a female partner so how can I figure it out with a hundred percent certainty? Am I just f@*^#ed up? I don’t want to hurt him.

 

[anonymous]

Sincere apologies @anonymous, reading earlier posts you had mentioned you had discovered you wasn’t heterosexual therefore I understood you had already met another female in order to make your discovery.

On the other hand if it is only thoughts/urges and you are merely curious about it then it could be transference towards other females because you feel safe around them.

I don’t think any of us here would think you are f#%^*d up ,because you are here reaching out for support and have a T so merely looking to find others in your/similar situation/s and I believe I can type on behalf of the majority here you have come to the right place.

I am sure if you will find welcome support here,also continue perusing the issue with your therapist after all that is what therapists are there for to listen, and to assist you in processing what is happening within both you and your mind.
Sending you a cyber ((((hug))))

 

[anonymous]

Sincere apologies @anonymous, reading earlier posts you had mentioned you had disc...

Thanks for your reply. I’m certain this isn’t curiosity. It’s quite strong. Sure my t is fabulous at listening, but I’ve shared a fair amount and obviously I can’t figure it all out myself. I feel vulnerable and alone going through this and trying to figure it out. I don’t really now how to bring it up agaim. I’m open for ideas and/or help with this.

 

[anonymous]

@anonymous assuming you are the original poster that opened the thread?
is It walking away from your relation ship you cannot figure out or what steps to take about discovering you are not heterosexual?
(((Hugs)))

 

[anonymous]

@anonymous assuming you are the original poster that opened the thread?
is It walk...

At this point, I need to take steps to confirm that I’m not heterosexual. Yes, I am the OP.

 

[anonymous]

@anonymous,ok how about going back to when/how you made the discovery.

What was happening at the time,how you were feeling ,what you were thinking etc maybe this may help?
(((Hugs)))

 

[anonymous]

@anonymous,ok how about going back to when/how you made the discovery.

What was happening at the ti...

A couple years ago is when I figured it out. I was going through experiences throughout my life and these things came together. It was really intense. Other aspects of it was gradual. I do feel shame , like I shouldn’t be feeling this way.

 

[anonymous]

@anonymous ,wow so when you say you were going through your life experiences are you referring to going through them with your therapist or just processing them in your mind? Was there something that triggered these thoughts.

Also you say the other aspects came gradually,do you mean the feelings became stronger?

Do you feel drawn to all females or is those that you are comfortable with and feel safe around like your therapist and so fourth?

Although bringing this up with your therapist again may seem difficult maybe you could touch on the subject slowly and drop parts of the subject in during the session and then if she asks a bit more about it you could open up to her.

I hope i am helping you
Sending you warmth and courage

 

[anonymous]

Thanks @anonymous I appreciate you helping me work through this.

I was processing through some experiences with my therapist. Feelings came out that had been in a box for a long time.

I don’t feel attracted to all females in a sexual way just some. But, I don’t feel attracted to males at all.

Yes, some feelings have become stronger and stronger over time.

I’m trying to work on this with this with my therapist, but it doesn’t feel like she understands and it’s really uncomfortable.