Husband's Playing Mind Games... I Think

[Jane1234]

Last night my husband said he would bbq, but when it came time he told me to do it. So I did. When i...

Well I totally understand. My marriage of 2 months I feel is going down the drain. I can't believe I am saying that but thats how I feel. I feel as though I can't do anything right. I'm a very easy going person and not much ruffles my feathers .....so things like. Not kissing him before going into the bathroom. Not checking in several times a day.
Skipping telling him a story not for any particular reason just probably forgot to tell him about it. It wasn't very important. Instead he takes it as I did it on purpose.

My husband who is a combat vet told me last night he looks for the next thing to be wrong. I'm beginning to think he likes it. He thinks I don't love him no matter what I do. Life for me is great and I love him very much. Its hard when someone asks you continuously whats wrong...when everything is fine. No matter if I tell him I'm fine he says he senses that's its not.
I'm going to talk to someone about this before i pull my hair out. He's very against me going to speak to anyone and told me if I do not to talk about him or go because of him. I hate to say it but its all because of him.

Life is hard and PTSD is harder.....I feel hes only doing these things because his mind is hyper vigilant and he's waiting for the next attack which isn't me. He goes to therapy and certainly gets help but at times like this things are exacerbated, not sure why just part of PTSD I think. Well I love him and am going to fight the best I can to save this marriage. Can I ask a question please? Last week we went away and we ended up taking 2 cars for a few different reasons. I left with my other and followed us home. He's done this before which I realize makes him feel better. This time I noticed he was weaving in and out of cars if he got a car or 2 behind me. He did everyting in his power to catch up to me so he was right behind. It made me nervous! He worries so much I feel so bad for him. If this ever happens again should I let it go or talk to him about just meeting at home. I'm thinking it would be less stressful for him but I'm afraid he'll take it as I don't need him. Sorry so long!

 

[Notrueself]

Well I totally understand. My marriage of 2 months I feel is going down the drain. I can't believe I a...

I'm sorry you're going through this. I would definitely talk to someone about this. I have ptsd, but not combat ptsd, and can relate to hypervigilance, but not in the same ways he's exhibiting them. I wish I could be more help. Maybe start a new thread on here in a forum closer related to combat ptsd and see if you get some advise. People are great about helping on here. But definitely talk to someone. You shouldn't have to always feel like you're doing something wrong. If it's ptsd related, maybe you can get educated together on his triggers and how to work through them. Good luck to you!