Relationship I Am At My Wits End....

[DaisySH]

Maybe he is going because he wants help sorting this out and he pdoesn't want to hurt you.

True I can see that.. But I mean I would think the biggest hurdle would be to say he is no longer in love with me... Stay in the same house or acting like nothing doesn't change much... I just think he feels the "spark" is gone and I think he doesn't realize how much his PTSD is affecting him.. He states he cannot feel happiness and that he is numb to feelings... We r going to therapy tomorrow and we'll see.. I know he needs support now especially when he is pushing everyone away but I also need to take care of me as selfish as that may sound

 

[DaisySH]

DiasySH, you said "he is no longer in love with you, but still loves you", try getting him to explai...

He said all our issues(everyday married life problems) became too much for him and little by little the way he felt about me changed... I became a chore... He said he always thought feelings would come back but they never did... Once I asked him about it, he felt the need to share... I feel so hurt, it's hard because in one hand I am so angry at him and on the other I know PTSD has had a hand in this... This is why it makes everything more complicated...

 

[Milo's papa]

He said all our issues(everyday married life problems) became too much for him and little by little the...

DaisySH, it breaks my heart to have to say this but maybe you two need to separate for awhile.

He seems to be saying that, at least for now, he just can't handle being in a relationship. PTSD has that effect on a lot of people, survivors as well as supporters.

Just remember that old adage "absence make the heart grow stronger", maybe that's what's needed here. I hope not, but maybe so.

 

[DaisySH]

I can't even disagree with that... I have left to my moms house but I think I need to sever all ties.. I feel like I left but he calls me to tell me about his day and such... Maybe he does need to see what life is like without me... My birthday is on Friday and then Valentine's Day... It will be rough.... :(

 

[Nicolette]

Gosh @DaisySH - sounds like you both have a lot on your plates. Good and bad stressors. Now that your birthday and Valentine's Day are upcoming it's just a couple more things to add to the pot. I know how hard all of this is. All I can say is if you stay in the relationship, this is a taste of the waves you will experience. Food for thought.

Hope you have a lovely birthday surrounded by family and friends. I won't tell you to try and be happy as I know it's not like that but I hope you make the most of your day :)

 

[DaisySH]

Gosh @DaisySH - sounds like you both have a lot on your plates. Good and bad stressor...

I don't mind the waves as long as we r in it for the long haul... I love him so much, but can't force someone to love me... So we will see... Either way I want to be ok. I want to have some semblance of happiness... With or without him...

 

[Milo's papa]

I can't even disagree with that... I have left to my moms house but I think I need to sever all ties.. I...

Happy birthday. Don't get too drunk, (LOL) celebrate all the good in life.
It sounds to me like it's already working, he's reaching out to you now. I suggest you just let him do the work and see where it goes..

 

[DaisySH]

Happy birthday. Don't get too drunk, (LOL) celebrate all the good in life.
It sounds to me like it'...

I will try not to get tooooo drunk :) I do need to see the good.. my family is very supportive.... I will see what happens.. I hope for the best.. thank you!

 

[Milo's papa]

I will try not to get tooooo drunk :) I do need to see the good.. my family is very supportive.... I wil...

I wish the two of you all the happiness newlyweds deserve. even as hard as it is right now.