I am stuck

[Ad4708]

So recently I started dating someone in the Army. We have been together for a month and a half and i am so in love with him and he’s honestly the sweetest guy i have ever met. He was diagnosed with PTSD. Our relationship was so perfect. We are long distance so we always FaceTimed and texted. When we first met he drove all the way to see me which was so caring. Second time we met he flew to me and spent thanksgiving with me and my family. And it was all so good. For Christmas he was going to be with his family and he had told me to tag along with him so I agreed to it. Plan was for me to fly over to where he currently lives spend a week there and then when he gets dismissed from work we would then drive all the way to the state that he’s from. So the day finally came when i had to fly out to where he’s stationed in. He picks me up and takes me to his house. And I stay a whole week there. Everything was perfect and I loved being with him everyday. So the day before we left to start driving he seemed a little out of it and off so I asked him what was wrong and he said that he was nervous going back home. So the next day came and we started our road trip it’s was going to be a 24 hour drive and the halfway point was my city that i live in and we were going to stop there to have a 2 hour rest period. That whole car ride to getting to my city he was just not himself. He seemed off but I didn’t question it. So when we got to my city he seemed more not himself so I asked him what was wrong and then he told me that he felt overwhelmed that I was going with him and that he felt like it wasn’t the best time for me to go with him to visit his family at first i was upset but then the more he explained I understood him so he ended up dropping me off at my house and then he carried on to the road trip by himself . So the next day he he finally made it home and he called me and he was saying that he felt off and overwhelmed at being at home. And then he told me he was going to sleep . The next day he texted me in the morning and we were texting on and off (we usually text every minute of everyday) but since he was with his family I understood that he needed his space and just time to spend with his family. The next day he sent me a text in the morning and I didn’t hear from him at all until that evening. And he was just telling me about his day. The next day he texted me in the morning and was telling me what he was going to do that day . And didn’t hear from him at all that day after that. The next day the same thing he texted me in the morning telling me his plans. And the whole day didn’t hear from him. The next day I didn’t hear from him. The day after nothing. (Today is actually a week that I didn’t hear from him) so all this is happening right now. I would send him messages asking if he was okay but never got a reply I even messaged his sister asking if he was okay and she said he was okay. So I just got concerned. He was still acting on his social media’s but he was just ignoring me. So today I decided to shoot him another text and i noticed the message didn’t deliver so I called him and it went straight to voicemail so then I realized that he blocked my number. I am just a bit confused. Because he didn’t block me on any of his social media accounts just my phone number. I guess I’m just confused because we didn’t argue or fight . Like I said our relationship was perfect. And I just want to know if it’s his PTSD is the reason why he’s being like this towards me. Please I need some advice and I’m stuck

 

[EveHarrington]

It might be PTSD, and it might not.

Your scenario is quite common....person meets ptsd sufferer, falls head over heels, but wait, when things start to get too real, the sufferer withdraws and the supporter is left wondering what the heck happened.

You still don’t know each other that well and are in the honeymoon infatuation stage. Add on top of it all the fact that you two haven’t spent all that much time in each other’s company (not behind a screen).

Sadly, if he’s an isolator, then this pattern is likely to repeat. Do you think this is something that you can handle?

Long distance relationships are hard even under the best of circumstances. Add in ptsd and it can be one heck of a ride.

It’s also possible that he just flat out ghosted you. Ghosting is sadly becoming more prevalent these days. Maybe he was just too overwhelmed, maybe things moved too fast.

It’s a bit of a warning sign that you’re claiming the relationship was perfect. No relationship is perfect, well, outside of the initial stages of getting to know one another. The “perfect” phase was not real. It is not going to return. THIS is more like what you will have to deal with, the constant back and forth struggle of dating someone who greatly struggles to manage their own symptoms.

I don’t mean to paint a bleak picture. Ptsd relationships are difficult even under the best of circumstances, and not everyone can handle being a supporter.

I wish you the best. :hug:

 

[Ad4708]

It might be PTSD, and it might not.

Your scenario is quite common....person meets ptsd sufferer, falls head over heels, but wait, when things start to get too real, the sufferer withdraws and the supporter is left wondering what the heck happened.

You still don’t know each other that well and are in the honeymoon infatuation stage. Add on top of it all the fact that you two haven’t spent all that much time in each other’s company (not behind a screen).

Sadly, if he’s an isolator, then this pattern is likely to repeat. Do you think this is something that you can handle?

Long distance relationships are hard even under the best of circumstances. Add in ptsd and it can be one heck of a ride.

It’s also possible that he just flat out ghosted you. Ghosting is sadly becoming more prevalent these days. Maybe he was just too overwhelmed, maybe things moved too fast.

It’s a bit of a warning sign that you’re claiming the relationship was perfect. No relationship is perfect, well, outside of the initial stages of getting to know one another. The “perfect” phase was not real. It is not going to return. THIS is more like what you will have to deal with, the constant back and forth struggle of dating someone who greatly struggles to manage their own symptoms.

I don’t mean to paint a bleak picture. Ptsd relationships are difficult even under the best of circumstances, and not everyone can handle being a supporter.

I wish you the best. :hug:

Thank you, i really appreciate your feedback. I should have rephrased the whole “perfect relationship “ thing . Because i know that there’s no such thing as perfect but the our relationship was going good and there was hardly arguments. I’m starting to believe that he did ghost me. I just hope I get the closure that i deserve. I just hope he’s doing well and that he’s doing okay.

 

[Sweetpea76]

Give him a little time. It was Christmas and family stuff. I wouldn’t worry just yet. It’s only been a week. See if he comes around after New Years.

No guarantees that he will... but sometimes the holidays do them in.