I am tired and trying not to be dramatic

[mchrisoss]

Yes, recovery and healing are definitely possible, but what this looks like is different for everyone. :hug:

So true. Thank you for the reminder.

 

[GinaB]

Relationships are like that - the good times are magnified because you have someone to share it with but also the bad times are magnified because you have the added angst of dragging someone through it and/or your/their failures as a human to respond well. Take one day at a time, keep up the counseling/therapy, and give each other grace. There is you as a couple and enjoy that but there is also you and him as individuals and some things we must carry alone and no other person can get us through. In my experience when I expected too much from a man I wound up disappointed and it put too much strain on the relationship. I pray you find just the right balance.

 

[Sweetpea76]

In my experience when I expected too much from a man I wound up disappointed and it put too much strain on the relationship.

I’d say caregiver burnout isn’t about expecting too much. It’s about putting in a lot of effort consistently. It sucks the life out of you after awhile if it’s not appreciated, or if it’s met with snark, coldness, aggression, criticism, lack of affection, etc. A person can have rhino hide and let all that go most of the time... but every so often it gets to you. It’s only human.