mylunareclipse
Platinum Member
A small accomplishment happened today. I had a meeting with someone that is in a higher position than me at work as part of a collaboration. It was the first time they we were meeting and I was seven minutes late. When I got there his office was open but he wasn't there. Was about to start blaming myself, calling myself a loser, look you ruin everything, if you weren't late he would be here, you screw up everything. Waited for half an hour by his office in shame. Then I decided to send him an email. I put myself on the other side of the table, I figured even if I were angry at someone for being late, I would have at least let them know that I was leaving, so maybe something else came up. So in the email I apologized for being late, but I also stated that I had been there half an hour and would wait fifteen more minutes and if not we could maybe reschedule. He must have seen the email on his phone and showed up two min later, he said he had got caught up in another room and he apologized. I said I'm sorry I know I was late. Either way we had our meeting and everything was ok. It felt so great for once I didn't completely blame myself, but I also didn't blame him. I was assertive, but I wasn't aggressive and I understood that I should pay attention to being late even if it's just seven minutes :) this forum has helped me challenge my thoughts in this way.
