Other I do put myself in situations

[LucyLou]

I don't know what I'm expecting from posting. I don't think he did anything wrong, this is all me I'm away with the little ones. Little ones dad, mum and his stepdad are here....Him, his mum and step dad in one apartment and me and the little ones in another apartment. We all went for a drink on Sat and I probably drank a little too much and he ended up in the apartment with me (I know....stupid). Sat night and morning after, he wanted me to do something....I won't go in to the dirty details, At the night I'd had a few drinks, so just did what he wanted....on the morning, he wanted me to do it again. I didn't say no but I kinda just ignored his request but he kept bringing it up....so I thought I'd just get it over with, the he says "you don't have to, you know" but I felt bad that he had kept asking. Kinda feels like just going along with it is easier. Now I can't stop thinking about this whole situation. I just want to be by myself. I can't put any blame on him because although I didn't say yes, I didn't say no either. This whole thing just makes me feel a bit rubbish

 

[Rose White]

Good that you’re noticing it! Means you’re coming up with a plan if something similar were to happen again. Sounds like you are developing your boundaries. Go easy on yourself.

 

[Movingforward10]

Would it help to have a plan about what to say or do?

Don't blame yourself for having a drink. You are allowed to have a drink and enjoy yourself. It doesn't mean anything other than you are heaving a drink.

Sometimes I find it helpful to visualise on my head what I might say or do in a certain situation. It helps build confidence to do it. And helps to practice.

 

[Friday]

Now I can't stop thinking about this whole situation.

Regret? Is a thing. Or a rhino, which is what autocorrect attempted and isn’t… wrong?

Regret is powerful, half blind, and dangerous as hell. So? A rhino is not a bad suggestion.

You didn’t like what happened, this time.

Change next time.

You’re fierce, like that.