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Will the crisis line talk to me? I mean simply because I don't feel safe? I know it sounds stupid but I'm afraid they will dismiss me!
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BewitchedBewildered
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I don't really have any good advice for you, but just know I wish you the best! <Hug>
I think the crisis line will talk to you. Their priority is taking calls from those with suicide thoughts. You can always call back too. Call as many times as you need to get through this. Even though it is 800 number, calls are routed to regions within your state, so it depends on how well staffed they are as well. But they will talk to you.
Yes, by all means call any crisis line that you can.
You need to realize that you cannot be in emergency mode forever. You need to get your mother and all of those people who are supporting her and telling you that you are crazy out of your life. No this will not be easy but you have no choice. Get the advice of a lawyer as to what measures can be taken to get her to stay away from you and act upon them. If you have to move far enough away so that she cannot get to you then do so. You owe yourself a life of happiness and these people will only bring you misery.
All the best to you
You need to realize that you cannot be in emergency mode forever. You need to get your mother and all of those people who are supporting her and telling you that you are crazy out of your life. No this will not be easy but you have no choice. Get the advice of a lawyer as to what measures can be taken to get her to stay away from you and act upon them. If you have to move far enough away so that she cannot get to you then do so. You owe yourself a life of happiness and these people will only bring you misery.
All the best to you
BlackbirdSinging
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I wish I could tell you you're safe and have you believe me. When I tell people I don't feel safe they tell me I'm being "sensitive". It makes me want to throw things when people say that. It's too bad they don't understand what hypervigilance really is.
And you have friends here at least. I'll be you're friend. You can be stuck with me :). In all seriousness and I'm not trying to make light or minimize what you're feeling. I just know how it feels to want to run or something. And I'm hoping you'll remember you're not alone. Hugs if you're comfortable with them.
And you have friends here at least. I'll be you're friend. You can be stuck with me :). In all seriousness and I'm not trying to make light or minimize what you're feeling. I just know how it feels to want to run or something. And I'm hoping you'll remember you're not alone. Hugs if you're comfortable with them.
You could try a shelter of some kind. They are usually created to look like just another house, so abusive men can't find their wives or girlfriends, or to normalize the experience of being homeless for the people experiencing it. I have stayed in both at different times, and felt very safe for the most part.
In Australia, if you get a good one, they have staff who will even help you find a job, house and get on your feet again, if you need that help. I'm not sure how these services would be where you live though? You could find out. Yes, crisis line volunteers will listen to you. They won't turn you away because you aren't suicidal enough for them or anything.
If you feel safe with your aunt, I'd encourage you to go to her as well. You also have the right to place a restraining order against your mother, if you feel she is compromising your mental health. She may ignore it though, that's always a risk. Generally though, narcissists will try and prevent being exposed or getting in trouble with the law if they can help it.
Do whatever you have to to feel safe again. You deserve that much.
In Australia, if you get a good one, they have staff who will even help you find a job, house and get on your feet again, if you need that help. I'm not sure how these services would be where you live though? You could find out. Yes, crisis line volunteers will listen to you. They won't turn you away because you aren't suicidal enough for them or anything.
If you feel safe with your aunt, I'd encourage you to go to her as well. You also have the right to place a restraining order against your mother, if you feel she is compromising your mental health. She may ignore it though, that's always a risk. Generally though, narcissists will try and prevent being exposed or getting in trouble with the law if they can help it.
Do whatever you have to to feel safe again. You deserve that much.
SOL-Your mother is toxic. What a horrible way to behave toward you. She is using this as a scare tactic. She is obviously very sick. She does not have the power over you (I know it is hard to believe when the fear kicks in). I would not let her in the house and if she shows up-call police immediately. Shelter is a good idea too. Even the local police may be able to help you with this if you explain the situation to them. I think a good start is the crisis line though. Just know that you have many people here thinking of you and hear to listen.
CrazyHorse
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Hi SOL,
I don't know if this will be helpful at all, but if your mother is a narc, I really understand why you don't feel safe. You are proberly already aware of this, but there is a blog by a girl who also is an adult child of narssicists. It is called House of Mirrors and it provides solid advice about what to do when you feel threatned by a narc parent.
I wish you all my best!
I don't know if this will be helpful at all, but if your mother is a narc, I really understand why you don't feel safe. You are proberly already aware of this, but there is a blog by a girl who also is an adult child of narssicists. It is called House of Mirrors and it provides solid advice about what to do when you feel threatned by a narc parent.
I wish you all my best!
BewitchedBewildered
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Hope today is easier for you.
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