General I f..ing hate my marine boyfriend' flaky behavior~ ptsd

[Gs172003]

Chick with combatPTSD. Another jarhead, as it so happens.

Sounds to me like you two might want ...

My grandpa was a WII marine, Guadalcanal. Great man. That said...Thank all of you vets for your service

 

[Freida]

@Friday @Buttercup wow. Respect to both of you! I was air force and barely made it thru that!

Ptsd is a bitch...combat or not. I could have been your guy. Sure I want a relationship when I'm not with you but the minute we are together all I can think of is escape. Not sure if that means I don't love you.but does mean I can't deal with a relationship. Long distance was perfect for me because that's what I needed....distance. Fly in hang out fly off. I spent 5 years like that before he dumped me. Was I upset? Yep

I was undiagnosed And I knew something was wrong but I had no idea why I acted the way I did. Hubby got thru to me by being my friend first. We didn't move into a relationship until 6 months later ...then I up and moved on him. Oddly he decided to come along but I made him wait 11 years before I would agree to marry him. Yea. 11. Years.

This is less about what is going on with him and more about what you are willing to tolerate in a relationship. He won't change without help and then he will get way worse before he gets bette r. So you need to be sure he is worth it

 

[Buttercup]

Air Force is great @Freida! I should have him Air Force. That's where the smart people are.

Wow, 11 years. Now that puts it into perspective!

 

[Never_falter2]

I was I very told they call it the chair force;)

 

[Freida]

LOL @Never_falter haters gotta hate! :woot::woot: you are just jealous cause we got the condos!:)

 

[Deleted member 43454]

I think people these days are too hyper sexualized from TV an movies.
I mean seriously I haven't met a single chick in my age group who can last a week or two with out finding the next swinging dick bored with the one shes got if he's not constantly giving attention or sex. It's not a relationship for the individual you just want great sex.
When you can't get the sex as much as you'd like you're frustrated looking for the next one.

Now we got social media and all kinds of hook up apps so there's absolutely no chance in hell a woman would actually wait for a man or be forced to wait I should say because there's like 30 other thirsty ass dudes already lined up for backup. If not they could be arranged with the swipe of a touch screen.

How am I supposed to want to start a relationship with somebodies who's already had countless other dudes DNA up inside her by choice? MGTOW for life.

 

[Never_falter2]

Off topic. I never understand the point the MGTOW movement is going to make... same for feminist who eschew all men. Why rob yourself off some off the greatest pleasures of life such as relationship.

 

[Sweetpea76]

When talking these actual PTSD relationships, is the issue really about sex though? Leaving hook up situations and f*ckbuddiness aside, it seems like a committed relationship is an uphill battle. Sex is the easy part, it's the intimacy that's hard to come by.

 

[anonymous]

A thing I hate about my vet is how sex and intimacy are not connected for him.
So i like having sex with him but what I do not understand... let’s say we just quarreled about something... and five minutes later he pesters me for sex. Do not get this. Don‘t wanna have sex with him when I am still angry at him and do not understand why he does not get this.

I do not get how sex is so unromantic for him that he wants sex everywhere, always, no matter how our mood is, no matter if we just quarreled.

 

[Sweetpea76]

I wouldn't necessarily say that scenario is a detachment from intimacy. That sounds like more of a sex drive thing, or general personality thing.

For instance, I'm like your husband. I have a high sex drive, and I don't mind angry sex... or sad sex, or hungry sex, or tired sex. :rolleyes: About the only time I wouldn't want sex is if I was deathly ill, and then I'd still probably think about it. It's still intimate. I crave the connection with my vet as much as the sex. I just want sex with him. Sex with him cures a lot of ills. If it makes us both feel better, why not? Make up sex is awesome!

When I'm single though, I can do without. I don't go out looking for hook ups or random men. I have that drive within a relationship BECAUSE I love my partner so much.

 

[Freida]

I do not get how sex is so unromantic for him that he wants sex everywhere, always, no matter how our mood is, no matter if we just quarreled.

Distraction. Having sex takes your mind of the demons.

 

[Deleted member 45360]

I think people these days are too hyper sexualized from TV an movies.
I mean seriously I haven't m...

No!!! You're very wrong. Im sorry you haven't met the right woman in your life yet, who'd only choose you and wait for you no matter what. I have to stand up here for women like myself. This does not apply at all at least about me. Im very exclusive and very much in love with one dick only. With that said most women love and want one dick only. After all for women like us its not all about the dick. We love the man, for who he is, inside out, starting with the inside. We want to care for him and adore him as the chosen one. You could line up 10 perfect dicks infront of me even when Im starving and haven't had any for a long time, and It wouldn't do anything for me. I would still only want my one and only perfect dick, even if I had to wait months. So you are wrong about categorizing all women. And my post wasn't about me complaining how Im starving for my dick, not at all, when it happens it's perfect and since we don't live together yet, its not as often, even according to him. My post was mainly about Wanting the dick to commit and not run away too often bc of ptsd.