I Feel "given Up On"

[quietone]

Hi. I am not sure if this is in the right area. Anyway, My T decided I couldn't handle EMDR. I have been doing talk therapy for years. I am talked out. My T wants to pass me off to another T in the practice.
I went to chat, but once again nobody was there even though it said there was. I just want to give up on all of of this. Apparently its not my time to be heard.

 

[joeylittle]

Hey - that's really upsetting about your therapist. Did they say more about why you weren't ready for EMDR? It's definitely something you don't want to do if you aren't in the right place for it...

With chat - the system "sees" people as being there even when they aren't directly. So, like, it probably thinks I'm there now, even though I'm checking it out while reading other threads. Anyway, don't take that out of proportion, you know?

I understand that feeling of being talked out. Maybe it's good that you try another therapist? Dunno, just thinking aloud.

 

[quietone]

Thanks. I just dont know how she came to that conclusion. I thought I was doing well. It just came out of nowhere. I really don't want to start over with someone else.
I'm sure that I am just overly sensitive right now

 

[joeylittle]

Overly sensitive happens - it's ok. What matters is you noticing it. Honestly, though, I'd be upset and confused too. Are you going to be able to see her again and talk with her about it? I just think it's not appropriate for her to not give you more of an explanation.

But I also think you deserve to be working with someone who will give you the help you need. It's really disappointing when it's not the person you've been with for 2 years.

 

[Friday]

Chat lists (to the best of my knowledge) all the members with the forum list on their screens. They can see the chat window, even if they aren't reading it.

There are days where I want to give up every minute of it.

Lately, I'm sick to death of my own patterns and BS. I can see them coming, and can't stop the suckers. Grrrrr. So frustrating. Okay. Edison, Up; 'I have not failed. I have merely found 10,000 ways which do not work.' The "too tired/giving up" and "I'm fine/giving up" and "ideation/giving up" are 3 parts of my patterns. Just like everything else, they're temporary. So I know I can sit through them, and wait them out at worst (at best I can subvert them into something different and even useful. I haven't been at my best for awhile).

I personally happened to have an amaaaazing change of Ts my very first time out the gate, so I'm a little biased in favor of someone knowing me looking honestly at themselves, seeing a gap in what they're able to provide, and seeing something in someone else... And setting their own ego aside in order to get the best placement for their client. It was a really incredible change in my life. Good thing, because I've had a couple wankers (glad to realize) who knew me so little that the person they were shoving me off of was even worse than they were. Okay. Duly noted : You are both morons and I'm well rid of you. Still grateful for those, even though they're frustrating. Because it saves me time suffering fools ;).

 

[quietone]

No, my next appointment is with the new T. I have no clue. Talk about stirring up my abandonment issues. I may not go back. That is NOT okay with me.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

What did you do in "talk therapy"? Did you just talk or did your therapist teach you skills (CBT, DBT, etc)?

EMDR isn't for everyone. It doesn't even work for everyone who tries it. Maybe there is some other form of therapy that will help you.

Talking gets old....I have been out of therapy for a year now, and I don't want to go back! I am post-processing, so yes, at a different place in my healing than you are, but I very much know the feeling of being tired of talking. Maybe I'm just daunted at the therapist search process? I don't know.... My problem is that therapy puts my "roller coaster" into overdrive, so I am oftentimes better off not rehashing my problems every week.

I wish you the best.

PS Your avatar is seriously making me LOL. I hope that makes you smile, even just a little bit, knowing that you helped someone else cheer up =)

 

[quietone]

Yes, yhat was the idea, to make others smile :)
I thought things were starting to feel better with EMDR. I have done CBT, DBT, Biofeedback, EFT. EMDR actually felt like it was working.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Wow, you've done a lot of different types of therapy! Can you say why your therapist felt EMDR wasn't right for you?

Nothing really worked for me, and I was resigned to just live life stuck in the past. I found an unknown type of therapy to help me process the trauma....so my point is that maybe the mainstream stuff doesn't work for you? I know it didn't work for me.

 

[Namenotdiagnosis]

I have mixed feelings abt emdr, it started working r well for me but then not all the time. The brain spotting worked better to and I enjoyed that, i do faster eft nd find that really effective. If the emdr is not working for you all the time ask your t abt brain spotting? They go well together, good luck ps I luv ur avatar really made me smile too! Thnku

 

[radicalgratitude]

Honestly I have been through the same thing with a couple of therapists. Always a blessing in disguise. I personally have never done EMDR (I've done pretty much everything else) but that's because I'm not a good candidate. It would do more harm than good for me.

There are plenty of people to get a second opinion from...

 

[Deleted member 1860]

I think I'm laughing still because they are big girl GRANNY panties! (Zach and Miri, anyone? LOL) Although if the avatar had a big pair of thong panties, I'd probably be laughing even harder. Sorry for the distraction, that avatar just cracks me up