Childhood I Finally Told My Mom - UPDATE: I might get help

[Wonder Woman]

Hi, nork5k2. Hang in there until you get some help. I know it’s difficult, but you're heading in a good direction.

Everything you are feeling is very normal considering what you've lived through. I am going to remind you once again, because you can never hear it/read it enough: You did nothing, absolutely nothing, wrong. You are not responsible for your cousins choices and actions. You are 100% blameless. If nothing else sinks in that anyone posts, I hope that will. Because the truth is even if you had worn something revealing, it still doesn't justify what your cousin did to you. No one ever has a right over your body. Ever. No matter what.

Now, as to the hypersexuality, that's a normal response, too. I went the other route, until I developed a very close relationship with someone I trusted. Then about three years later, I went the other way after our break-up. I did a lot of self-destructive sexual acting out, with random, nameless people. (I don't advise anyone follow my example). Then, because I was disgusted by my own behavior, I went the other way. Until I met a charming predator, and basically was his slave for a year. Realizing I was completely messed-up, I stopped perusing romantic and sexual relationships altogether, and it has been that way for 20 years.

You are very different from me. You are getting support early on, and it sounds like your mom is someone you can count on. Please, take care of yourself. Ask yourself if you want to have sex, or if you feel you need to have sex, like compelled to be sexual.

Always remember, you did nothing to cause the abuse. You are a strong person. Take care of yourself. I will be praying for you.

 

[Truthful_Whispers]

Ignore your mother and seek a non biased professional. Sounds like she might be one of those types who tries to hide family dysfunctions..

 

[Ronin]

Sounds like she might be one of those types who tries to hide family dysfunctions..

Or she's just a parent who, no sinister intent at all, doesn't know how to deal with her loved babygirl hurt in ways that just get to people badly, and if the people are women, regularly get used against them for power kicks.

I'd rather not tell a kid her mother is doing wrong when nah. We don't have an evidence of that. For all we know so far the mom tries to help, and is herself caught surprised by the situation.

That's difficult spot for the parent, too...

And not a show of being a covering things up asshole.

 

[Friday]

Ignore your mother and seek a non biased professional. Sounds like she might be one of those types who tries to hide family dysfunctions..

No idea where you’re getting that? Considering their mom a) wants to talk about it with them/ is offering suggestions attempting to help, even if her suggestions aren’t working she’s still TRYING to help, b) called DHR, c) took them to the police station to file a report, & d) is facilitating counseling starting in just a couple weeks... that couldn’t be LESS attempting to hide family dysfunction. To the contrary it sounds like her mom is a huge source of support, who believes deeply in her kid, and is trying to help in every way possible. Did you post in the wrong thread?

she believes i could talk to her.

My mom called DHR and took me to the police station. I told them everything about what happened.

They told me that I’m gonna go to a professional on April 6th and honestly, i’m kind of nervous.