Relationship I Guess It's Over....

[Bubbles215]

I can't see any other ending to this...not my choice though.

So after he came round on Sunday and getting the lovely card I've heard absolutely nothing. After an incident a few weeks ago I needed to explain some things so gave him a letter on Sunday - I thought it was fair for both of us that way, I got a chance to explain and I got to tell him how sorry I was for hurting him and that I was there for him. Since then I've heard absolutely nothing.

He's away at the moment and says there's no signal and yet I see him on Facebook so it's not that he couldn't contact me - he obviously just doesn't want to. I know 4 days really is just a drop in the ocean but I miss him like crazy and just don't know if he's ever coming back. I haven't contacted him as I think it's best to give him space but it is triggering my anxiety from past experiences.

I don't understand PTSD, I have not been through what he and you have, but I'm trying to educate myself so I can be there for him but I'm shut out, ignored. To be told by the man you love that they don't know what they want really hurts. He won't end it, he won't be here. What do I do?!

Sorry all, bad day I guess.

 

[Bubbles215]

Sorry everyone, my post sounds so self-pitying - it wasn't meant to, I'm just confused to be honest :bored:

 

[DaisySH]

Hello Bubbles... I wish I could give you great advice but I am sorta in the same boat as you... PTSD is definitely difficult to live with both as a sufferer and a supporter... There is no right answer at this moment.. he needs his time.. No one can know at this point if he will come back.. Or if he simply needs time... One thing is for certain, if you decide to "stick it out" you have to come to terms that although it is not something he might "want" to do, he may still do it... It is great that you are getting educated and reading a lot about PTSD. It will definitely help you understand a little better and hopefully also help you cope. I am sorry I am not much help... ::::hugs::: if you accept them

 

[Changing4Best]

Your feelings are real and you don't need to apologize for them. It is a tough situation and I know we PTSDers do put our supporters into difficult situations sometimes. Hang in there.

 

[Bubbles215]

Thanks so much both. I'm just toddling along with my life at the moment - I hope he comes back. His guilt and his feeling that he's not what I deserve seem to be 'winning' at the moment (not his choice I am absolutely sure) and I feel very helpless.

Sending you both lots of smiles if that's ok :)