I Have To Tell Them Soon

[Orglethorp]

Thanks for the support, @digger1. You're absolutely right, sororities are a social club, not a professional organization. @jmni, I'm not sure you've understood the problem here. I am the president of a social club, and the other 5 founding members are some of my closest friends in this city. I do eventually want to tell them about PTSD and my past so that I don't feel like I'm hiding and they have a little insight when I have a bad day. It's not a decision I would make lightly, or hastily, and I definitely don't want to put anyone on the spot. The problem is that I think it may become necessary to explain myself to certain girls sooner than I had intended.

I do realize that I don't "have to," but as I already said, I already want to. I'm just not sure that all 5 of them are ready to hear it. The one who started the plan to get me drunk has been doing this (pressuring me to drink heavily and questioning my reasons not to) for nearly as long as I've known her. She doesn't accept no, but I think she doesn't because she knows there's a reason that I'm not sharing. I really do think that if I shared my reasons, she'd finally drop it. 1 of the other girls already knows, 2 I've been trying to find the opportunity to tell, and the 5th can probably handle it. I'm not as close to the 5th. Obviously I would do this gently, and not share many details. My goal is not to shame or traumatize anyone.

To be honest I have more issues around the whole initiation thing with regard to that

Please believe me when I promise that it's nothing like the movies. These girls are about to become our sisters. We don't want to cause them harm, neither physically nor mentally, nor do we want them to walk away hating us.

 

[Orglethorp]

So I didn't end up telling them, and it would appear that I drank enough to satisfy the one who had been pushing me before. (I appeared to, at least. I kept adding more ice to my drink so it looked like I was re-filling it. Over a period of 5-6 hours I appeared to be drinking 5-6 drinks, but in reality I didn't even finish 2.)

 

[The Albatross]

Well done. You drank what you wanted to at any rate. Though at some point perhaps you may choose differently than appeasing your peer.

 

[radicalgratitude]

I used to drink all sorts of nonalcoholic beverages at university parties. I'd put them in Nalgene bottles. Sometimes I would pretend to be drunk for fun. (I like acting.) It worked well.