I Promised That I Wouldnt Run Away....

[AnnaNatalie]

I've recently started a relationship with a ptsd sufferer. The relationship has progressed very quickly and strong feelings have developed on both sides. I have promised that I will not turn my back on our relationship when times get tough (like ex partners have) however at the moment there is a huge strain on our relationship and I feel pushed out. My partner has suggested that it would be better if I was to move on and forget about my feelings for them.

I dont want to be selfish but I really dont know what to do. When things are good they are great! But when things are bad they are awful.

Please if any one can help with ways to cope or how to be supportive I would really appreciate it, I have no-one else to discuss this with as none of my friends understand why I can't just walk away.

 

[intothelight]

Hi AnnaNatalie,

Welcome to the PTSD Forum. Being in a relationship with a PTSD sufferer is difficult, but not impossible. There is an entire section for Supporters on this forum. There is a lot of information, but also a lot of support for those who support.

Take care.
Debbie

 

[Froggie]

Welcome to the forum AnnaNatalie. I will reiterate about the supporter section on this forum. Take time for yourself and take care of yourself. This is the first message often mentionned to supporters. Who knows, maybe he may also decide to join the forum. There are many couples here.

 

[CraftyCath]

Hi Anna, feeling for you and hope you find the strength to carry on. x

 

[Kim]

Welcome to the forum.

 

[a3a2]

It sounds as if you are quite new to this relationship....is that correct? I think if that is the case, the whole purpose of spending time with that person is to decide if you want to spend (more) time with them. In your case, since the relationship is young, I am not sure getting out is "running away".

I think you also have to ask yourself if this persons saying "it would be better if you move on and forget about your feelings" a way of trying to get rid of you? If so, is it the PTSD, or is it just that he doesn't feel this relationship is what he thinks it should be.

At least consider slowing things down in the relationship. I found that a slower start to a relationship usually makes it stronger if it lasts, and a whole lot less painful if it doesn't.