I Pulled Myself Out Of A Triggering Situation

[Seasounds]

It sounds easy enough from the outside, but from the inside, many of us know what it is like to feel stuck in a situation because we care and/or because we find ourselves in an old family/relational dynamic that has replicated itself in the present.

Enter an old friend who had a medical crisis that was accompanied by the clear beginnings of dementia (memory loss, confusion, mood changes, etc.). My usual role is to help, more than my share.

This time, much sooner than before, I noticed that I was not taking care of myself, while I also noticed that I was not being treated well. After one week of being involved-sharing my friend's care with another person, I saved myself by graciously handing over the caregiving tasks. (There are other friends that can be involved.)

Minny Mouse turned into Mighty Mouse! Setting a boundary felt so good. Now, after 5 days of recouperating, I'm almost myself.

This forum has been of great help, in recognizing undesirable situations, and in giving myself greater self-respect. Thank you!!

 

[Rani G2]

This forum has been of great help, in recognizing undesirable situations, and in giving myself greater self-respect. Thank you!!

I recognise your challenge, and you certainly have achieved something very meaningful there Vandya. The selfworth is a issue for me too, acting towards, setting our boundaries, practising selfcare. I have my worth, I dont need others approval, their liking...thats work, step by step.

 

[The Albatross]

Kudos for this, "recognizing undesirable situations, and in giving myself greater self-respect"! :tup:

 

[DEllen]

I am just learning this and it feels good. Way to go!

 

[Lovemyself]

I have also removed myself from a very toxic relationship. It has been so hard i dont understand why i cling on to people that abuse me. I get so mad at myself. Why cant i attract healthy people that can take care of themselves.

 

[VioletButterfly]

It's taken too many years of picking up after an alcoholic and 5 years of being drug behind the horse of Alzheimer's, but I'm finally getting it. I didn't cause either disease, can't control them, nor can I cure them. It won't help my mom if I kill myself in the process of trying to see to her needs. It's time to put up boundaries and ease off on rescuing my mom. Finding balance somewhere between extremes.

Thanks for sharing your story. I'm happy for you in recognizing and seeing to your needs early on. :tup: