Hi all, I'll try and summarise if I can.
So my SO apparently came out of isolation a couple of weeks ago when he reached out to me after 4 weeks. I was so elated I posted to let you all know. He apologised profusely for his radio silence and made arrangements for us to meet the following week.
Yeah! Well that fell through, no explanation just didn't happen. I wasn't mad though just very concerned. I knew this meant he was in a real bad place this time.
I decided to leave him be once again to work it out on his own and he calls me up today (2 weeks later) when I'm least expecting it. We have an honest, no bulls**t conversation for like 40mins, all cards on the table. I hear things for the first time that almost bring me to tears but I force them back and listen so he can just get it all out.
Basically we came to a mutual, calm resolution about putting things on an open ended break with no expectation for the future. The s**t really hit the fan this time and he went off grid in a big way (not just with me). Every trigger firing on all cylinders with everyone!
He told me he now realises he HAS to return to therapy and perhaps get medicated too! So relieved he has come to this conclusion himself. We confirmed what we feel about each other and he said I'm the only good thing lighting the way for him at the moment.
Its not even about a romanticised relationship right now, just want my friend to get the help he needs and am so happy he is willing. I can't stand to hear in his voice how he is suffering.
He insisted we stay in touch, wants me to keep him up to date with what I'm doing in my life. I don't exactly have the outcome I want and yet I feel strangely calm and at peace....? I guess I have some closure or resolution so no longer hanging in limbo. But genuinely happy he's doing right by himself to ease his suffering.
We ended very emotionally by telling each other how proud we are of the other. If we are meant to be in future we've reached a deeper level of understanding and built a stronger foundation to support the weight of such a relationship.
Thank you all for your support and wise words.:hug:
So my SO apparently came out of isolation a couple of weeks ago when he reached out to me after 4 weeks. I was so elated I posted to let you all know. He apologised profusely for his radio silence and made arrangements for us to meet the following week.
Yeah! Well that fell through, no explanation just didn't happen. I wasn't mad though just very concerned. I knew this meant he was in a real bad place this time.
I decided to leave him be once again to work it out on his own and he calls me up today (2 weeks later) when I'm least expecting it. We have an honest, no bulls**t conversation for like 40mins, all cards on the table. I hear things for the first time that almost bring me to tears but I force them back and listen so he can just get it all out.
Basically we came to a mutual, calm resolution about putting things on an open ended break with no expectation for the future. The s**t really hit the fan this time and he went off grid in a big way (not just with me). Every trigger firing on all cylinders with everyone!
He told me he now realises he HAS to return to therapy and perhaps get medicated too! So relieved he has come to this conclusion himself. We confirmed what we feel about each other and he said I'm the only good thing lighting the way for him at the moment.
Its not even about a romanticised relationship right now, just want my friend to get the help he needs and am so happy he is willing. I can't stand to hear in his voice how he is suffering.
He insisted we stay in touch, wants me to keep him up to date with what I'm doing in my life. I don't exactly have the outcome I want and yet I feel strangely calm and at peace....? I guess I have some closure or resolution so no longer hanging in limbo. But genuinely happy he's doing right by himself to ease his suffering.
We ended very emotionally by telling each other how proud we are of the other. If we are meant to be in future we've reached a deeper level of understanding and built a stronger foundation to support the weight of such a relationship.
Thank you all for your support and wise words.:hug:
