DID I want to quit - need support

[anthony]

What @The Albatross said... and stop tagging me with nonsense please. If you have an admin query, tag @joeylittle and take it up with her.

 

[Sideways]

@Radise
Maybe I've missed it in all the posts, but what have you planned to congratulate yourself and acknowledge your achievements along the way???
Is there anything/anyone/anywhere that you need to avoid for the initial phase?
And (maybe I just don't know you well enough yet) but is there anything you'd rather NOT hear from us while you're getting started??

 

[joeylittle]

I believe that this will be a consideration for the staff and moderators,

Nope - you are allowed to form whatever small group you'd like. As Alba said, you can do that through the PC function most easily. You could also start a thread, if you'd like it more public.

I am more than happy to take the lead within this group only if He and the other forum staff members are in agreement for this to be implemented.

Anthony has chosen to step away from his responsibilities as Administrator. It would be most respectful if you were to try and remember that, and as he requested, not draw him into things that aren't his responsibility anymore.

And anyone is free to connect with others for support on the forum. It's why the forum is here.

 

[Deleted member 20280]

Dear @joeylittle thank you for the update and I appreciate your comments.

I shall consider all the facts in this matter at length and PC yourself as an administrator with my final suggestions.

I apologise if I have over-stepped the mark with sending this for Anthonys consideration. I was not aware that he has stepped back regarding his administrative responsibility and shall remember this in the future.

I will address all issues that arise through this issue directly with yourself and I shall take Your guidance regarding all future considerations surrounding this, I shall do this with full respect taking into due regard the fact that I am required to follow all forums rules in relation to all matters pertaining to forming a support group/thread surrounding this matter.

I shall create a thread for a vote of members shortly to guage how beneficial a group like this would be to the forum as a community.

Kind regards

@Mr Laurie

 

[Upside Down Eagle]

@Ragdoll Circus

Sorry haha I almost forgot to reply, what with my trouble with a broken limb and shortly sidetracked by other threads...
At the moment I´m using SuperBetter to acknowledge my achievements, it´s a sort of game where you are a hero and you can define "bad guys" who you then can battle daily. My bad guy is the Attachment Troll and I can indicate whether I have battled him succesfully or not.

As it happens I had a fallback yesterday night - I was in a lot of pain and dissociating badly because of a problem with my cast - I couldn´t bear anymore to handle all of that mentally so I relapsed into engaging the imaginary double again. I am starting to feel better so again I want to try and distance myself from it, I should be more able to do so now...

I need to avoid contact with this guy (whom I usually create an imaginary identity for) and avoid focusing too much on him. So from this post forward I will not talk about that anymore :p. Instead I should be focused on what I do want which is being mindful. I tried being mindful yesterday for a bit but failed due to the pain. I will make a second attempt tomorrow.

 

[ladee]

Awesome @Radise !!!!! Hit that re-start button. Sorry to hear of your pain. It does make us do things we don't want to do.... but you are very aware. And that will get you down the road. Happy you remembered to post and let us know how you are doing.... :hug:

 

[Sideways]

"Attachment Troll" - LOVE IT!!!

 

[Upside Down Eagle]

So far so good guys. I quit again immediately after the whole foot scare.
I´m in the middle of red flags because I´m so bored (can´t really do that much) and that seems like a good excuse to engage the imaginary again.

Nope!
I´ll try to think of something I can distract myself with...

 

[MoonOwl]

The thing about recovery is that it has to start with acceptance. Addictions are a symptom - a way (a harmful way, usually) of trying to cope with something deeper. When I worked with addicts (both substance and process addictions,) I always knew someone was "getting it" when they actually expressed sincere gratitude for having had the addiction in the first place b/c it was that very thing that became the gateway to true healing.
One of my clients realized that had he not relied on alcohol in his early years, he might have "taken the bridge." How could he not be grateful for that?
One of the keys is to not get into the judgment that addiction triggers and see it for what it is - an easy but misguided, potentially lethal coping mechanism. There are other coping mechanisms. Addictions are a matter of the reward system in the brain having been "highjacked" by a substance or behavior. The brain sees this substance/lbehavior as necessary as air or food - that's why the cravings are so powerful. This can be reversed if you understand what you're dealing with. It's a brain-thing. It's not a moral issue. You are not a deviant despite what the culture espouses. These kind of negative feelings about the addiction itself only create an addiction cycle.
I think the best way to approach it is through learning about what's really happening in the brain and forgive yourself for being human.
A good resource is Gabor Mate, M.D. I t hink there are some Youtube videos of his on The Brain and Addiction.
Also, 12 step programs like Adult Children of Alcoholics, AA or NA - even if you just read their material online and choise not to go to meetings.

 

[MoonOwl]

Just want to add a caveat: Withdrawal from some substances can present very real medical dangers that need to be dealt with medically by professionals.