I Was Told To Cut All Ties With Abusive Family

[kasumigenx]

I asked my fortune teller if I should still hope for inheritance once I go NC?

Her answer is that I will get none and I should

I should cut all hope for inheritance

cut all communication lines

Never tell my address to the relatives that are not N.C to me

Secure my own house..

 

[Friday]

Whether or not she can see the future? Sounds like a smart lady.

If she's Romani... Even a remarkable one.

 

[The Albatross]

Hmmm. The act of receiving advice already alters your reality. Personally, securing your own house and downplaying the expectation of receiving an inheritance is pretty much common sense. Where I'd draw the line? Well that would be allowing a fortune teller to advise me to cut off all ties ahead of a potential inheritance.

There are probable realities... yet it is not cast in stone, nor I do not give more power to people who provide caution or insight over... well myself. Just food for thought.

P.S. Personally I do not subscribe to fortune tellers... and at one time I was one. I dabbled and was not a professional though the people I read thought it was accurate and significant. I did not presume, once I realized that there are any number of realities for an individual, to know or prescribe or advise... anybody. Period.

 

[The Albatross]

P.S. The most honest thing that was said, was guard your house... that applies to her/him as well.

 

[Chimera]

"Where I'd draw the line? Well that would be allowing a fortune teller to advise me to cut off all ties ahead of a potential inheritance."

Wisdom in this.

I prescribe to the train of thought that we already have the answers we need, inside us. Many cannot look at them, others question them and disregard them.
Take your time on this and remember not to be a slave to others nor material gain.
You know what to do.

 

[Lucycat]

once I go NC?

Please - what does NC mean?

 

[mary1979]

Please - what does NC mean?

No contact I think maybe?

I hope you are receiving advice and support from a therapist as well as this fortune teller?

I mean all well and good, the fortune teller has given wise and practical advice, but if you need a hippy to tell you to stay away from abusive people, family, then future reading should not be your priority.

Good luck! X

 

[Sideways]

Hey again @kasumigenx - good to hear anyone (even a fortune teller) back you up on what you wanted to do for yourself, because if I remember right, your family is abusive and you were thinking of going no contact for your own well-being.

It is going to be tough because of all the changes involved in your life. Moving, new house, new job, getting a good T on your side. To me, those are the things that will bring more happiness to your life in the long run than sticking around your abusive family for a potential inheritance. I hope the change works out for you. Keep us posted:)

 

[Ava Jarvis]

A fortune teller, even a true one, can abuse trust too easily. This one is adding common sense on top of whatever possibility she saw in your future, but the thing is, the future changes and nobody can really predict 100% futures, and it's irresponsible to advertise such an ability in the first place.

Likewise, it is not the place of a fortune teller to give you advice. The fortune teller's business begins and ends with giving you the possibilities and paths. And there is almost always more than one path.

If I were reading your fortune, I wouldn't say, "You should totally cut off all contact and not hope for an inheritance." I would give you the paths, factors, and possibilities for various choices, and pretty much nothing else.

For the record, I did cut off all contact with my family and ditched any possibility for an inheritance because there was a strong chance my father would murder me anyways before any of that mattered. I didn't need divination for that.

Anyways, this is ultimately your choice. It is not anybody else's. No fortune teller who was moral would tell you that you must go this or that way, because that is dangerous. We rarely have complete information about someone and all sides of a situation, and it is impossible to gain that much information about a stranger through divination.

Most divination more or less provide mirrors that talk back. There's knowledge inside you, knowledge we don't tell our conscious selves, and often talking to mirrors will reveal it to you. That's the real role of divination. A fortune teller ought to help you know what the mirror is showing you—not perturb your choice with their own judgements.

(There's some divination that goes beyond mirrors that talk back, but it is not really stuff you want to mess with and doesn't have the focus on single lives that most people desire out of a tarot card session.)

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I personally would not go to a fortune teller for advise.

If a therapist told me that I had an abusive family, I would pay attention and seek the answers I sought. I am very skeptical.

 

[Fadeaway]

He is using N.C. to mean no contact.
I have to admit I am very worried about you. I am guessing you are a teenager. Others have asked before but you never replied. Granted, it was wrong for your mother to tell you to throw your art away, hurtful, but I have to actually agree with your mother that if you didn't have your design patented, people can steal it and claim it for their own, even if it is morally wrong.

You have said multiple things that worry me and this only adds to it. The fact that you wanted to rely on a go fund me account as a means of providing for yourself being one of them. Another being your use of the term molested when you were in fact not molested by your own admission. Having someone walk into the room , even if they don't leave is not molestation. However, the fact she stayed in the room is kind of creepy, but it may have been out of sheer ignorance, too embarrassed to pretend she noticed or perhaps even cultural.

I might get a lot of flak from this, but I don't think it is wise for you to go no contact with your family until you are in therapy and can provide for yourself period. That is unless there is more going on than what you have shared. If there is more going on than I will gladly retract my statements, but I worry about your judgment and ability to care for yourself.

Just don't do anything until you have spoken with a therapist a few times.

 

[Ava Jarvis]

About funding and what @Fadeaway says about that -- yeah, you need to build up bigger cash reserves and be able to get a job or support in some (healthy, non-abusive) way. Things getting life-threatening is an exception, but ... Well, there's always a but. I stayed in a life-threatening situation for quite a whiles.

Getting away always requires a plan. Plans to get out should incorporate finances in some way that will work out. Support is something to get as well. Work up a network. Be careful of moles.

Gods I sound like Batman.