Sexual Assault I went into 'freeze' mode.i was hand raped.what happened to me?

[ladee]

First, we are not therapists here. We are a support group and peer group for PTSD. You have been given suggestions.... and almost repeated verbatim you answers each time.... sorry, I don't think we can help you with this... you are in the wrong place. I do hope you find someone to help you, but it won't be here.

 

[Deleted member 44525]

First, we are not therapists here. We are a support group and peer group for PTSD. You have been given su...

I'm pretty new to these kind of forums so sorry.Talking with people here is really helping me. This is so upsetting to me I don’t think I can discuss this verbally with anyone without bursting into tears.

 

[Sideways]

All I want is for someone to help me with advice and stop this happening.

Obviously pepper spray and a small handgun at this point are an absolute must. But do consider some self-defence classes - there are some really great instructors around who will be able to teach you how to very quickly disable dangerous assailants, ninjas, and short ugly women.

A large attack dog is a necessity, preferably a rottweiler or doberman, although Paris Hilton's teacup chiahuahua is also a force to be reckoned with.

Finally, as nice as satin feels, it's advisable to switch to a camouflage onesie. You'll be much harder to see, and if you are found by the dreaded groping women, they won't be quite sure where to grab for. Consider switching your 3" heels for some rollerskates for an immediate getaway in any situation.

 

[ladee]

We get it... and if you cry in front of someone... what's the worst that can happen..... and again.... you will not get PTSD from this situation and we are a PTSD forum..... not a casual conversation group about upsetting things . Some of us are in the fetal position crying about being really raped as children.... what is it going to take for you to realize this is NOT the place for you to get help with this ????

 

[Neverthesame]

This woman invaded my personal space.It can be very uncomfortable to have someone "in your face",as it were.

It sure is. No doubt about that.

Its very rude to invade someone's personal space

Again, I don't think anyone would disagree with this either.

There is however, a difference between rude and rape.

All I want is for someone to help me with advice and stop this happening.

As has been said by everyone else already. Therapy would be the best way to learn tools for controlling your anxiety. So if this happens again, you will be able to do something other than freezing.
It takes time, effort and practice. It really does work though.

The process of doing this is not something we can provide you. You will need to find a therapist.

This is so upsetting to me I don’t think I can discuss this verbally with anyone without bursting into tears.

I would suggest that you may find it easier to write this experience down in a letter, which you can have the therapist read in a different room or between sessions.
That way you don't have to be there when they learn this.

I wouldn't worry about crying in front of the therapist. I guarantee that you will not be the first client to do that.

 

[Suzetig]

This is so upsetting to me I don’t think I can discuss this verbally with anyone without bursting into tears.

That's absolute fine, as has been said - you wouldn't be the first to cry about someone touching you when you didn't want them to. Im thinking you know you're blowing this way out of proportion and you know the people in your life love you enough to tell you to get over yourself.

 

[Suzetig]

I have never felt such shame or degradation like this in my life

I'm truly sorry you've felt degraded. I'm also truly happy that this is the most shameful, degrading situation you've ever been in. I wish that were the case for most people here.

 

[Deleted member 44525]

We get it... and if you cry in front of someone... what's the worst that can happen..... and again.... yo...

I'm feeling really frustrated..It is all my fault. I let that woman walk all over me.I'm physically stronger.I let that weird woman get away with so much.I was totally paralyzed.I am scared to see a therapist.I am terrified that I wont be able to even tell the therapist whats wrong with me.But I think I really need help and I don't know how to go about it.

 

[Deleted member 44525]

People have given their opinion (it wasn't rape, you're over dramatising, you're not ruined, not going...

Alot of people have told me that I look unapproachable,arrogant and stuck up. Alot of people ( females in general) pre-dislike me, unto they get to know me and find out that I'm a not stuck on myself at all.I'm the kind of person that only speaks if I have something to say and I keep my business to myself. I work for a good company. I am good and competent at my job.

 

[ladee]

Hon, what does this have to do with you getting help... no one here assumes one thing about you, accept going on what you are sharing about yourself.....the ONLY suggestion we can give you is go to therapy.....or find another forum about sexual impropriety....
Every single one of us have been scared to go to therapy....

WE are saying we can't help you here.... so , will leave this alone and hope you get the help and answers you need... tho, again, it won't be from us....

 

[Deleted member 44525]

That's absolute fine, as has been said - you wouldn't be the first to cry about someone touching you wh...

Do you think that i am blowing this out of proportion?Please be brutally honest.

 

[Neverthesame]

Your looks really aren't a factor here, as we can't see you.
Whether or not you're stuck on yourself, I don't know you well enough to agree or disagree.
I do know, you are the first person in all the years I've been on this forum, to include their measurements and cup size when introducing themselves.

I don't care what you look like. Or if you're the CEO of a huge company. Or the person who mops the floors.
It has nothing to do with what you are asking about.