I Would Like To Apologise

[Sazza]

It appears that I have caused some upset in a reply to a post in the forum. I would like to apologise for any upset I've caused, it was never intentional. I am not perfect I am Human I make mistakes. We all have our own individual issues we are trying to deal with, at times we may try to respond and In doing so misunderstand a post and cause upset. Sometimes we need to remember we are all hurting in our own ways and this forum provides support but at times we may not like the reply someone gives us but no hurt is meant by it.

I will think hard before replying in future, I usually stay around the chit chat topics as find hard to follow some posts cause of concentration. Regardless of that I think it best I stay to
More general posts in future to prevent further upset.

 

[CraftyCath]

Whatever happened Sazza I'm glad you are here. I generally stay in the chit-chat section for the same reasons, I can't focus for long. I hope the person who took offense will forgive and forget. Reading things on the forum we don't always interpret what is said properly and can take offense when none is meant. The Mods have to check it out of course, it is only right that they do and that they remove offensive stuff.

Well done you for being brave enough to post this.x

((((HUGE HUGS for SAZZA))))

 

[Srain]

((((((((((((Sazza)))))))))))))))

I certainly have never seen anything to suggest that you were anything but supportive here on the Site.

Post wherever you feel safe. If someone takes something you say in manner that upsets them I believe it's their responsibility to deal with it. We are all going through our own issues at any given time and someone like me maybe going through 4 decades at once, so you surely cannot please everyone all at the same time, huh? :)

take good care,
peace,
Rain

 

[Heather]

I have to agree with Srain. I've been on this site for a year now and I know that on a few occasions my comments/sense of humor has NOT always been appreciated........

I've never deliberately tried to offend anyone or hurt anyone's feelings but like Srain says we're all going through our own issues and IMHO if someone doesn't like it that's on them to deal with it.

 

[Sazza]

Thank you Cath, srain and Heather for your replies it means alot. I was upset earlier that my name was mentioned and not sure in what context, i do however realise i can't be responsible for the way in which people react to my replies, i try to reply best i can as a fellow sufferer and nothing more - thats all i can do. If people don't like that then it isn't my problem as long as i havent intentionally replied in an unacceptable manner which i know i haven't.

Thanks again

Sazza

 

[Heather]

i do however realise i can't be responsible for the way in which people react to my replies

You are a very wise woman Sazza:). I had to be reminded of the very same thing in a post that I made several months back.

 

[anthony]

What post?

 

[Phoenix_Rising]

I don't know about the post but I think it was very brave of you to post this and you handled it really well. I am glad you are here, and like everyone has said, sometimes stuff just gets misunderstood. That happens in RL too (otherwise most people would never fight or have disagreements, because most of us do not wake up in the morning and say to ourselves, I'm going to pick a fight with (or hurt) so and so today), but it is even easier to do online because no one can see body language and we all have to infer from writing alone, and people are in so many different mental/emotional spaces, you can't possibly foresee them all or be responsible for that, just yourself. Which you have done brilliantly.

As for sense of humour, well, it's all in the intention isn't it (usually)? My partner says things that if I repeated them to someone who didn't know him, they would likely be horrified. But if you know him and his brand of humour, then it's different. As an example, he once made a comment to the daughter of a close friend of mine, about eating her hamster for supper. Well, she didn't know him and she thought he was serious (she really loved her hamster) and boy was she ever upset, even after it was explained he didn't really mean it... She was quite upset. That would be one of his less colourful pieces of humour (and on occasion he does go too far, and has to be told so, but it is never knowingly hurting someone--he's just got the humour of a 5 year old.)

Whatever it was, I just want you to know that I am glad you are here :).

Rising_Phoenix

 

[Heather]

What post?

The Osama bin laden one where you reminded me that I'm NOT responsible for what other people "say" because everyone was going back and fourth (arguing) which made me upset.

 

[anthony]

Link, anyone?

 

[Heather]

Link, anyone?

I tried searching for it but no posts were found. It was under politics in chit chat but I don't see that either.

 

[Heather]

Link, anyone?

found it

[DLMURL]https://www.ptsdforum.org/c/threads/hooray-osama-bin-laden-is-dead.16901/page-2#post[/DLMURL]