Ideas / Suggestions For Combat PTSD Forum?

[CCurry]

Well said Anthony and I'm not quite sure what was SO offensive to Charon? I was the one who actually posed that question to you Anthony in regards to whether this site will also be for carers of combat ptsd. When you responded, I totally got it, no offensive taken knowing that I would never tell someone with combat ptsd (or any other) to simply get over it. That being said, I can see how someone else might respond differently.

Keep doing what you are doing Anthony, I've told my BF about this new upcoming site and the only reason he is interested in joining that site is because it is solely directed to him and his brothers in arms. Just like firefighters have a brotherhood with other firefighters, so do Combats Vets.

Carmela

 

[Charon]

I'm being over-sensitive I'm sure and it was probably just a bad day. I've caught a lot of crap from people just for being in the military (Iraq isn't exactly a "popular" war with some people and I've pretty much been labeled a baby killer before just because I wore a uniform). I just hate the stereotype of the crazed vet and I care a lot about other veterans, I just took it out of context and put too much of my own issues into it, sorry about that.

 

[anthony]

Charon, that is fine mate. I am a veteran myself, six operations here, though I have not been called a baby killer or the like either. It is tough at times though, yes. The web is hard at the best of times to get emotion, because text just doesn't come with it. So unless each person is basically a novelist, where they write emotion, everything, so the reader gets the entire picture... then we are really only left with interpretation and assumptions. Its ok mate... I do understand.

Please feel free to ask any person though what they mean... it does take a little getting used to, especially online. No doubt you have been in forums before, where one person says something, another attacks because of their interpretation, then others start taking sides and it all goes to shit real quick. Often by the time the person who write the initial statement clarifies what they where trying to say, often they then have the shits with being attacked and well... it just all turns to custard very quickly.

Basically, I am not going to limit the military talk, banta, etc within the new forum, because it will be an environment that veterans with much anger will need in order to listen to the very advice and knowledge that can help them. The best way to get through to someone is to put them in an environment they are comfortable. Military... that means a military environment. I think we both know that there are a lot of males who show little respect for women... and because veterans are mainly male dominated... putting civilian spouses in a direct military environment, they may not fair so well. Sure, they have been around it, but within it... very different. Female military tend to learn how to hold their own... and they struggle at the best of times with some of these individuals. There are lots of good people, good males, who treat others with respect, male and female, but we both know a military environment can get out of control and quite offensive at the best of times if you are not used to it.

I do not plan to moderate this new forum like this one is.... it needs to be as much a military environment as possible in order to work effectively, to help veterans.

Thanks for understanding... and please feel free to ask if in doubt. I honestly hope to see you in the new community once launched.

 

[CCurry]

Hi Charon,

I am so sorry that people have labelled you that, what a cruel and untrue thing to say to men and women who have added up the costs (to themselves) and are still willing to make that sacrifice.

I've heard many many stories (and I thank god he opens up to me) that are really difficult to hear but not nearly as difficult for him to relive. There is not one single time that I did not understand what and why he had to do what he did even though he cannot forgive himself.

Thank you for wearing that uniform and feel free to vent whenever you need.

Carmela