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[ms spock]

Hi Sue,

Welcome to the Forum!

 

[Sailorgal]

Hi Sue,

Welcome! I'm not military wife, but had several close friends in military (one was an ex bf) and they actually told me quite a bit about experiencing ptsd after war.

Love and patience is all you can really provide. It would help if he was in a support group for veterans. He was recently diagnosed? So this went on for years??

I don't know how open he is with you regarding events causing his ptsd, but try not to take things personal. Remember, our service men are trained to be thick skinned and proud! And showing emotion is a sign of weakness.

Wishing you strength and hope on this journey!!!!

 

[discarded]

Hi Sue and welcome. You have a long hard road ahead of you and lots of support is what you need to get you through it. Feeling abandoned by him is naturally very painful for you and will take a long time to accept that there will be times when he feels like he doesn't want to be with you and can't really express to you why. From my own personal experience with my PTSD Vet, they just want to be left alone. It has been the hardest part to deal with. Unfortunately they don't want us to fix them, just to leave them alone. One day your texting will be what he wants, the next it will isolate him further. It is just the nature of the beast. Hang in there, take care of yourself first. All you can do is let him know you care then leave him be. Easier to say than do of course. ((((hugs))))

 

[Olsoya]

My apologies. Sometimes when you feel like your feeling the same as someone it's hard to not swerve from the topic. Sue, I personally apologize to you and hope you took no offense to our conversation.

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

Hello and welcome to the forum. :)

 

[discarded]

My apologies. Sometimes when you feel like your feeling the same as someone it's hard to not swerve from the topic. Sue, I personally apologize to you and hope you took no offense to our conversation.

I agree, sometimes we have to relate our own experiences so we can show we do understand

 

[bella35uk]

Hi im bella and wanted to say a big hello to everyone, i seriously need help understanding my anxiety xx

 

[Dallas]

Love and patience is all you can really provide. It would help if he was in a support group for veterans.

Good advice from Sailorgal. I try and stay out of my boyfriend's recovery business as much as possible. He does much better with his friends at the VA, and I leave them to their business. It is working pretty well for us that way so far.

Sincerely,
Dallas.

 

[KP the nut]

Hi and welcome to the forum.

 

[Whitneys story]

Hi Olsoya, Welcome to the forum. It will take time and while he is trying the waters why not give yourself some me time. There is great reading material on the home page as well.

So glad you have found this site! I wish you success on your journey. Whitney

 

[Pinkcake]

Hi Sue.....I'm the sufferer so I'm not much help but its nice to see a supporter trying to help their spouse. Sometimes it takes tough love and sometimes it takes being there....its so hard to know the difference and sometimes the sufferer themselves don't even know what they need!